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no more babies

I had a horrible delivery with my son. The dr's told me I nearly died. I don't remember much of it, just remember being in intense pain and going for an emergency c-section. I had a severe case of HELLP syndrome. My platelets had dropped really really low. Anyhoo, the dr told me there were tests they can do to see if I'm prone to this happening each pregnancy or if it was a one time thing.

I had the labs drawn. It was only supposed to take 3 weeks, but the lab drew the wrong ones. So I had to have them re-drawn. We got the test results.

My doctor said we could have another baby, but I would have to be watched extremely extremely closely. I would be high risk. I have a 65-80% chance it will appear again.

I was upset at this news at first. I would like another one, just because i enjoyed pregnancy so much and I love my son so much. But I realize, I'm happy with just one. I don't think we would be mentally, physically or financially sound to have another one. H and I like to have alone time, which we struggle so much with this one. So, we've had many many discussions and if my dr won't fix me, H is going to get snipped. : /

We haven't told our family what the doctor told us or what we've decided. I haven't told anyone really besides H. I guess I'm still full of mixed emotions. Just had to get it out. 

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  • I'm sorry to hear that Deb! But I'm glad that you and H have dicussed is and come to a decision together as a family. It will take some getting used to the fact that there are no more kids in your future but it will make you cherish your little one that much more.
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  • :(  I'm really sorry Deb

    at least you have your sweet little boy though which is something to be happy about, and I second PP, I"m so glad you came to this decision as a family even though its really hard 

  • I'm sorry, Deb.

     It's good that you and your H are together on this decision, though, and that he is willing to have the procedure done.

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  • i'm really sorry deb! =[
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  • Deb, I'm really sorry to hear that!  It must have been an extremely difficult decision to come to with your husband, I can't imagine.  Athough, it's really good that you and your husband are both on the same page.  We're here for you!
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  • Deb, I'm so sorry to hear about your results. It sounds like you are taking the news very responsibly, but that doesn't make it any easier.
  • I'm so sorry to hear this, Deb. I think it's great you were able to come together as a family and make this decision, though. Will be thinking of you.

  • Oh Deb, I'm so sorry to hear. This it sounds like you're taking things as well as anyone could. It's great that you came to such a hard decision together as a family though. It's great that you have your little boy though, and one is better than none. =)
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  • Deb, I am so impressed with your strength!  What a tough thing to learn!  I am glad that you and DH have discussed this and that you are blessed with your little boy!  
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  • deb, im really late to this post somehow i missed it! i just wanted to say im really sorry about the news. it seems you guys are taking it great and you have really been blessed with kody. and if you end up wanting another child sometime in the future, even if you cant have it yourself, there are plenty of children out there waiting for amazing parents like you to adopt them :)

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