Wedding Recap

This is from my local boards that I posted when I returned form our honeymoon, but I wanted to share it here as well, I am still having nightmares about what happened 

We got back from our honeymoon in Oahu on Sunday Aug 22, and sadly we spent a lot of time of our time on our honeymoon reflecting on the horrific end to our wedding. Sorry this post is all over the place, but I am just getting out all my frustration. Flashback to our wedding day on August 14th.... everything was going perfectly as planned, maybe a little too perfectly, but hey, we had worked so hard planning that night and spent a lot of time, energy, and money in planning every single little detail, so it was nice to see it all come to fruition. We had our wonderful ceremony, a great dinner with our guests, a couple of ours of the dance floor being packed. We had paid for all our vendors and venue for the wedding to go on until 1AM and believe me, it would have gone longer than that if it would have been possible and all our guests were going to stay the whole night.
 
But then, around 11:30PM, I saw out of the corner of my eye a "friend", that I have known for 5 years who I was very close to and was going to be a bridesmaid in her upcoming wedding in March, crying to another friend of mine in the corner of the dance floor, and my husband and I were in the middle of a dance so I couldn't break away since all eyes were on us.. This friend of mine is known to be a drama queen, but acting out at a wedding is really uncalled for, if you are having a bad night, you should probably stay at home.

I noticed she had come to the wedding by herself without her fianc? and I asked her what happened earlier in the night and she said she didn?t want to talk about it and being my wedding night and having 240 something guests there and everything going on, I told we would have to get dinner when I got back and talk about everything. 5 minutes later after seeing her crying to my other friend, I see her at her table by herself, with her head in her lap, again we are mid dance, so I let it go for a few minutes, but then decide I need to go talk to her and get her some help, call her a cab or something. I went up to her and said she should probably get going if she wasn't feeling well, and that I would call her a cab. I asked where her purse was, and she pointed under the table, I looked all around underneath the table and found her purse and handed it to her , saying we needed to get going, she continued pointing under the table, and I said no , I have your purse. At this time, she decided to dive under the table and "pass out" with her legs sticking out under the table. 

I was mortified and couldn't believe that this was happening at my wedding. She is a big girl and there was no way I could get her out, but of course within minutes , the lights were on and the music was off, and everyone rushed over to see what had happened, and we had 4  of our guests who are medical professionals, including 2 MDs over her, checking her out, and she laid there "pretending" to be passed out. All four of those people said she was fine and her vitals were just fine, but we had to call the paramedics anyway, and as soon as they arrived about 10 minutes later to take her away, she jumped up and starting screaming about sorry she was and she spit in one of the paramedics face.

Again , more mortification for me, as I stood there with all the children being traumatized, my 85 year old GMIL watching, and wedding completely ruined by this selfish person who couldn't handle the attention being on someone else for one night. Having come there as my guest, she completely shamed me in front of my new family, my own family and friends, who are all very conservative people.

My sister was one of the people checking her out, and I felt so bad for her because the last time she was standing over someone like that was when my dad had his heart attack and died. And here she was going to through all that again on her sister?s wedding night, but it was all just an act, my friend was just pretending to pass out, it was just drama to get attention. After checking her out and making sure she was fine, my sister , brother in law and the kids all left immediately to reduce the trauma on the kids who all thought my friend had died too. 

We had so many guests that flew to Dallas from out of the country and more than half of our guests travelled from out of state to be there on our special night, and our night was cut short because of her. We will never have that night again and will never be able to have those moments that she made us miss!!  Because of her and her antics, we never had a last dance, we never got to have our special exit that we planned, and we missed out on the last hour and thirty minutes of our wedding that we paid so much money for and worked so hard to plan.
 
She is a 30 year old woman with a master?s degree, so you would think she would know better but there is nothing we can do to undo what she did.   I have been through so much in my life and this wedding was supposed to be a night of joy and happiness for me and my family. I have no idea how to deal with her because I am still angry and numb at the same time and can?t believe what she did. 

  If I had any clue that she would act this way, I would have had a couple of male guests just escort her out as soon as I saw her acting weird, but I tried to be the nice person and approached her myself, and she took advantage of that and the fact that I am 8 inches shorter than her and 100 lbs smaller and there was nothing I could to do stop her from diving under the table.  

The only thing that I can say is that God was still on our side, and as we stepped off the plane in Oahu for our honeymoon, the first shop we walked by happened to be playing our last dance song that we never got, ?Unforgettable? , and we stopped and danced in the airport.