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what did you not know about sex till you had experienced it?
Just curious, for me i, was unaware it could lead to a charleyhorse. (funny how they forgot to mention that little fact, in sex ed.) I'm just wondering what other interesting little facts caught people off guard. This is just for fun, so please no vicious flaming.
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Re: what did you not know about sex till you had experienced it?
I didn't know how complicated it can be to maintain even the simplest of poses without practice. Our first several times (FI and I were both virgins when we met) we were concentrating so hard on just the insertion that once we finally got there we weren't sure what to do anymore! We tried thrusting, but he kept slipping out. It took a little time before we got the hang of things.
Those people in the movies make it look so easy!
I've never had a charlie-horse from sex... are you sure you're doing it right?
For me I somehow didn't realize how messy it would be after ...in my mind I think I thought it would be like the movies, where after you have sex you can just get up and walk around or sleep soundly without cleaning up.
haha - I figured that the only "difficult" part of poses was the flexibility of the people involved, I didn't realize that not everything lined up every time, or that even a little change could make it harder to fit A and B together. (let's just say our first attempt at doggy style ended up with a naked summersault off the bed....at least we both thought it was hillarious - and finally got it a few tries later - haha)
I've never gotten a charlie-horse, but I've gotten a crazy cramp in my hip while on top. All I had to do was move my leg a bit, but dang, that hurt!
I also agree - I never thought sex would be so messy afterwards. I totally expected it to be like the movies/books, too. Wouldn't it be nice to just do whatever and not have to worry about it? Even when you do clean up afterwards, there's always that little bit that decides to make an appearance a half hour later. I hate that.
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* After 22 months and 2 failed IUIs, we finally got our BFP *
DS delivered naturally at 41w6d on 4/18/14
In general, I was surprised at how non-instinctive it is. I swear, if I'd never seen or read or talked about it, I'd never have figured out what goes where. Hell, even knowing that, figuring out how to move was pretty tricky. It's possible that for a smart person, I'm slightly retarded.
This exactly!
This exactly! I thought I was the weird one for cleaning up afterwards because the movies always make it seem like there is nothing to it afterwards that it's time to cuddle and go to sleep!
This is all probably TMI, but whatever.
That it can take a long time to have an orgasm.
That an orgasm can be almost instantaneous.
That his thrusting can bruise your ovary and make urinating after sex very painful. Seriously people, I went to the doctor because it hurt so bad inside when I peed for 24 hours after we had sex. My ovary was so swollen that it was pushing on the tube from the bladder to the urethra. So, whenever I'd go to the bathroom the urine moving through the tube would push on the ovary and cause pain. I was OK a couple days later, but we were told to be more gentle and have him go in straighter.
That his thrusting can actually move your uterus around if he hits your cervix just right. That's a bit painful too. It felt like the worst cramps ever. Again with increasing gentleness when in that position.
That you can accidentally kick your partner in the kidney if you're not careful, when you're rolling over while still "connected" so that you can be on top. Hard to keep going when he's in so much pain.
That sleep sex is a real phenomenon. It's like sleep walking, except the afflicted person will become amorous while completely asleep. The next morning they will have no memory of it happening. Or they may wake up in the middle and be very confused.
How awesome dreaming orgasms are. You know... an erotic dream that results in an orgasm.
I know there are more. I just can't think of them all right now.
Geeze, puokgirl! Sounds like some rough sex goin' on there, haha!
I didn't know that some pain/discomfort could be normal upon insertion. Of course, you expect the first time to hurt, and that wasn't all that terrible. But even now 10 years later, it still takes me a minute to relax my PC muscles and the insertion part can be a little uncomfortable. I thought it should be mind blowing, feels great (!!) sex from the word go...yeah, not so much, haha!
I had never heard to pee after sex, so UTI's were a huge issue for me. It took a lot of years to get them under control!
2 things
1) that my nose will run.
2) and I was shocked at the flerburts... air coming out afterward. I was like wtf !
Sorry to quote text speak, but this one literally made me LOL!
I didn't know about queefing..Howwww embarrassing.
That my face would look like I just had a stroke when the orgasm hits.
I didn't know about the messiness either.
You have to make noises . . . They dont come naturally
If you get to going to fast . . . He can slip and go into another unexpected hole . . . And it makes you cry and ruins the whole night
That if you dont get your big O when you really want it that night . . . You will cry
Black sheets are a TERRIBLE idea
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