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question stemming from all these marriage/'clicking' posts
I have a friend going through this, and it got me thinking. What would you do/how would you react if you found out your H was addicted to pornography? Participating in it behind your back/when home alone, clearing computer history...etc.
Re: question stemming from all these marriage/'clicking' posts
For me it would depend on how you define "addicted to porn." I don't consider hiding porn use from your spouse to be an addiction. Quite frankly, I know DH masturbates, but I don't really want to think about the mechanics of it. It's not a turn on for me. Put the DVD back in the drawer when you're done.
If he truly was addicted to porn (i.e., spending all of our money on it, skipping work to use porn, looking at illegal pornography, etc.) I'd treat it just like drug or alcohol addiction. He'd have two choices: counseling and abstinence or divorce.
this. Like any other addiction.
If he spent all of our money on it, I'd think I'd married a moron. You can get this stuff for free online, dude.
Anyway, I don't mind porn. I wouldn't mind if a BF or H watched it frequently with or without me. But, if it were truly an addiction (affecting his work, etc.), then I would also treat it as drug or alchohol addiction.
Ha! People with porn addictions go way beyond the free stuff...they move into web cams, shower cams, paid fetishist sites, etc.
That said, I forgot to add---we do have a "no internet porn" rule in our house. I think it's the only law I've ever laid down, and DH was ok with abiding. Why? Because after I wiped out the entire computer, reinstalled everything, and lost some important data for the third time in 6 months due to porn-related internet viruses (DH has no clue how to fix computer stuff or, apparently, how to avoid online STIs) I said, "Enough is enough. If you want porn you can buy DVDs online or order it through the OnDemand." Thankfully, DH agreed.
I agree with you ladies. I'm OK with porn, but if it became an addiction, either take steps to kick it or we're done.
You just sooo quoted my H.
I agree with all of this. I don't care if he looks at it as long as it doesn't affect our sexy time, work, money, etc and as long as it didn't develop into something more. If it did, then he would be getting help pronto.
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Jellybean BFP 01/29/2011, EDD 10/07/2011, M/C 03/23/2011.
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