So a couple weeks ago was my SIL anniversary and DHs birthday (the 27 and 28 of Sept). We wished them a happy anniversary and invited them over for cupcakes for DH birthday. So they cam over and we gave them there card and she looks at me and goes " thank you. You guys are the only ones that remembered our anniversary." When she said that I felt horrible for her. I said to here your parents didnt say anything to you. She was like nope no one at all but you guys. I could tell by the look in her face that she was hurt and disappointed.
So my question to you guys is being that our anniversarys are here, how would you feel if you own family forgot is was you anniversary? I have a feeling that DH's parents will forget that ours is on Sun.
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In all honesty, I don't expect that anyone will remember it is our anniversary and I am ok with that. I think the wedding is for you, your DH, family and friends and the anniversary becomes something for just you and DH. I suppose it would be nice if people remembered, but I don't have that as an expectation.
All of that aside, I think it was really sweet of you to acknowledge their anniversary!
I'm not expecting anyone to remember it. It is really only a significant day for DH and I. Anyone who remembers is a bonus. lol, I still dont' have my wedding gift from my parents yet! (granted my dad is making it so it isn't like they forgot to get something. He's super handy and is making a standing jewelry chest for us)
Birthdays are sorta the same thing for me. I don't expect anyone to remember but am grateful for the people who do.
We got cards from our parents and a gift from mine (ILs asked what we wanted and we told them to save their $$ for the baby. I had mentioned wanting a new coffee table to mom and she insisted they buy it for us...so we let them). We also got a card from my cousin, who was one of my bridesmaids (but her and her mom are awesome about remembering everything and sending cards - they even sent me a mothers day card this year), and texts from BIL and my other bridesmaid. It was honestly more than I expected and I definitely don't expect anything next year except maybe cards from our parents again.
I do, though, always send my parents a card on their anniversary and a gift on the big ones. I guess I enjoy celebrating the start of our family with them.
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My thoughts exactly. I don't even really remember the anniversary dates of my sibilings' weddings (I know they're sometime in mid June and mid July), let alone get them cards. My parents never made a big deal about their anniversary when we were growing up either.
I think I would be hurt for the first one...even though I NEVER remember my mom and stepdad's anniversary...I couldn't even tell you now when it is.
My grandma has already mentioned our anniversary is coming up and my parents know we are going away for it because they get to watch the dog. I am not expecting cards or gifts or anything (although it would be nice!) But I think if my parent's were to forget I would have been hurt.
Thanks ladies. I agree with all of you. I dont expect anyone to really remember ours, but hey if they do then im happy but if not it wont bother me. I was just wondering what everyone thoughts were on this. Thanks all.