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Cute Saying?
Ok ladies I need your help.
I am co-hosting a baby shower with my SILs for one of my SILs. For some reason my MIL has been weird about inviting out-of-town guests. We wanted in include our out-of-town guests (even though we are assuming they won't be able to make it) because they are still part of the family and we want them to feel included. I know if I lived out-of-town I would want to be invited to family celebrations.
But anyways, we got my MIL to agree to let us invite them, but she is insisting we put in a note for the out-of-town guest only that says if they are unable to attend the shower please don't feel obligated to send a gift. So does anyone have any cute ideas on how to say this so not completely tacky??? and it doesn't seem like you are required to bring a gift if you are attending. I need HELP!
Re: Cute Saying?
If you are co-hosting the shower with your SIL, I'm not sure why your MIL get's a say in it. If she gave you the addresses, run like the wind with them.
But then again, I'm not afraid of irritating people that are being unreasonable.
I would probably tell her that including such a note is not advised in the etiquette books because it assumes that the invitees do not have manners enough to decide for themselves if a gift is appropriate. Not only that, it implies that people who are local are obligated to bring a gift - and a gift is NEVER supposed to be an obligation under any circumstance.
I completely agree with you guys.
We were just going to include a note with the invites for the out-of-town guests, so not everyone would get it.
The reason MIL voiced her opinion is bc it is her daughter (my SIL) that is doing the invitations so they talk regularly. Oh and for some reason this side of the family does not feel the need to ask the mother-to-be for an invite list, they just assume they know who she would invite. (side note: they never asked me for an invite list for my bridal shower. They did not invite my FBIL's GF of 4 years and she was not happy. I did not find out until after my wedding she was not invited (I just assumed she was busy that day) and she thought it was bc I didn't invite her. This is the same girl who is now my SIL and we are throwing the baby shower for. haha)
So come on ladies... someone has to have a cute saying to use to help me out keeping the peace in the family.
"Your presence is the only gift requested."
?? That's about as good as I got. Have you tried posting over on the bump - maybe one of the trimester boards would have something cute.
I was thinking something along the same lines. I think its stated simply enuf and its not rude!
I agree with this. Including a note to OOTers seems like a lot of work, and again, adds to the perception that they would have been otherwise expected to bring a gift.
This is absolutely perfect!!