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I just need to get this out. (vent)
I went for yet another interview yesterday. Here's some of the backstory, it was something that career services at school found, Debra, the Paralegal that is working there now, who actually graduated from the same school and got this postion from the school has decided to be a SAHM after working for this attorney for 15 years.
The interview went well and after being grilled for over an hour, and given a typing test (woohoo I typed 65wpm) then I was asked if I had any other questions. I asked the standards, job details, hours, things like that, I even asked him how long he had been practicing, and he looked at me like I had three heads, but he told me about himself.
Then he said to me don't you want to know something else??? He said salary?? I didn't bring it up, because usually it's somthing that doesn't get discussed on the first interview.
This is what he said, and I almost fell on the floor.
"Well I'm sorry but I can't offer any benefits to you (he's a solo so I was expecting that) but then he said, I don't like to tell anyone when to go to lunch, but you know Debra never takes a lunch (hidden meaning no lunch), and I think I give her one paid week off a year, but she never takes it (hidden meaning, don't plan on any vacation time and really after 15 years 1 week of vacation 
).
Now here's the kicker, he was only ofering a salary slightly higher than minimum wage. And he won't be making his decision for a couple more weeks.
I understand I don't have really any experience, but that's just insulting, come on I can work at Dunkin Donuts down the street from my house and make more money than that.
Right now I'm just flustered and frustrated. I never thought it would take me six months to find a job. I'm even willing to temp and I can't find anything, I've lost all motivation to do anything, all I do is knit, cook and look for jobs.
Sorry, I just had to get this out, and if you read the entire thing you deserve a cupcake.
Re: I just need to get this out. (vent)
Oh no, Vikki.
I interviewed for a job like that once, where they wanted me to work a ton of OT and if it got excessive they would do something about it. I said, No Thanks, there are days that I am going to want to leave on time.
Anyway, I hope you find a good position.
I'm sorry Vikki, that is so frustrating. What's sad is he will probably find someone desperate enough to jump on his offer too. But how does he think he can be competitive with other employers? Crazy.
Hang in there, I know you'll find something soon.
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Oh Vikki- that blows! DO NOT SETTLE. The right thing will come along.
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I'd take the position to get something on my resume, take the lunch breaks, and when he snaps, file a claim against him.
Ugh....what a douche.
I say I'd take it, but I probably couldn't Who starts a new job knowing it's going to 100% suck???
Dude. That's ridiculous. I wouldn't want to work for someone who was like that right off the bat - no thanks.
I know something will come along. I'm still throwing job dust your way and keeping fingers crossed!!
Ok, losing your motivation is normal. It is frustrating and it kills your self esteem when you job hunt and don't land something in a very short period of time. Sure you have to find a way to get yourself out of that spiral of doom, but keep telling yourself you are ok to feel this way- it is frustrating, it is annoying, but it is so normal and there is nothing wrong with you.
Next. Dude? WTF? Seriously?!?!? Mid interview you rabbit on about Debra not taking lunch breaks or any vacation time?!?! Ok if you do get a second interview, you have my permission to turn this job down. Not with a polite over the phone no thank you, either. Oh no.... you get in there, you get right in front of his face, and you tell him how SHOCKING it is for someone to suggest you skip your legal entitlement to any and all breaks. And furthermore, the wages are pathetic (oh yeah, totally use the word pathetic as well), and be sure to tell him that you are worth more than that. So, you bring to the table your talent, your skills, your incredibly high work ethic and he brings to the table a decent salary of at least X, and an acceptable benefit package of at least X number of days off for personal/vacation times. Don't forget to remind him he will get what he pays for- if he wants the best then he better step up to the plate. If he wants crap, then good luck to him.
Ok, so it most likely won't get you the job. It sucks anyway as it is and there is no way anyone sane would take it. But OMG what a total high you would get from it, right?!?!? It's like free power boost!!
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wow. That really sucks.
and I agree, if he wants better, he's going to have to do more than what he is willing, but whatever floats his boat.
You'll find better. It'll be worth the wait. Everything happens for a reason, there is a plan for you.