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My mom's wedding and pics
Her wedding was on Sunday, and I spent most of this week processing what happened. It's kind of strange to marry your mom off. It's even more strange when it feels like a first wedding. They really went all out - lots of guests, wedding party, band, cake, etc. Thankfully, she didn't wear a white dress.
Larry (her H) has three kids and six grandkids. I really like his kids and we were commenting to each other about how weird it all is, and that it felt a little like a first time wedding among 25 yr olds at parts. I somewhat cringed when the Rabbi referred to them as 'bashert' (meant to be/soulmates). Overall, it was fun, and Miles was cute.
Oh, is it strange that she's decided to take his last name? I feel uncomfortable about that, but then again, I'm overly sensitive about this stuff.
Miles looking dapper
Me and my kid
November family
the happy couple
Miles and Isla at the end of the night (thankfully my mom hired a babysitter to sit in the bridal suite with the babies)
Mabel the Loser.
Re: My mom's wedding and pics
You guys look great! I LOVE your hair. You're so pretty!
I would feel really weird about my mom changing her name too. I'm totally with you there.
Also, I cannot stop seeing "English as a second language" on their cake.
The nerve!
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1. You look beautiful and fabulous
2. Your mom is beautiful
3. #2 means #1 will probably hold out for a long time.
4. Good for you for not doing bunny ears behind your mom's head while they're cutting the cake with a sword (?)
Thank you all! Yeah, my mom is lovely looking - not bad for 62.
Thankfully, no cameras were around to capture my eye-rolling at various points in the evening.
You look wonderful and I love Miles' outfit. Your mom is pretty too.
I don't think the name thing is weird. I think for some people that just goes hand-in-hand with marriage.
I bet her FUPA's name is Shane, like the gunslinger/drifter of literature.--HappyTummy
You look so pretty!
I am undecided on the last name issue for the remarriage.
For less then ten cents a day, you can feed a hungry child.
I felt squicky when my mom remarried and changed her name. Maybe I would have felt differently if my parents had divorced and she moved on and made the name change. But something about him dying and her taking another man's name bothered me almost more than the whole marriage. For a short time, I felt it made the 3 of us (brother, mother, and me) less of a family unit. It left me feeling really off. And I was irrationally mad at her for shedding off the last identifying thing of my dad.
You guys do look awesome. You have a beautiful family!
And the whole grown up step siblings thing is bizarre.
This is the issue exactly! Hezz, you get me, man. I know my feelings aren't rational, especially because neither my sister nor I still have our maiden names. But, it just feels so final - almost like my dad was never here.
That's kind of how the whole day felt. I didn't want the wedding to be at tribute to dead spouses (Larry is also widowed), but I wish there was more acknowledgment that something came before this marriage. It seemed somewhat disrespectful to my dad and Larry's first wife.
you all look great!
I always hated that my mother still has my dad's last name, I wish she would change it back to her maiden name, she doesn't deserve to have the same last name as my dad, brother, sister and me.
I haven't experience this, but that was my thought as well. If November's mom wasn't widowed, I probably wouldn't bat an eye. Plus the soulmates thing? I get what you're throwing down, November.
The nerve!
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What a beautiful family!
I'm not sure what to think about the name thing. I suppose for some people it makes them feel more like a couple to have the same name, but since I thought it would be a pain to change my name when I got married at 38, I certainly wouldn't change it at 62. To each their own.
I can ditto everyone else on how attractive you all looked. Especially Miles with his tongue sticking out.
yep. exactly!!
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
The good news is that you seem to have inherited your mom's beauty genes and avoided her crazycakes genes. Score! That's a good-looking family you've got there.
I think changing the name is just what women of that generation do. Without thought. And I guess, if I was the new H, I'd feel weird if my new wife held onto another man's name.
I don't think you're being overly sensitive. The "soulmates" and the name change stuff, especially, would be a whole lot to process. I don't see anything wrong with feeling uneasy about it.
Aw, November, you all look fantastic! I agree with those who said that your mom probably just took his name because that's what people her generation do/did.
I also wouldn't be surprised if they also thought about their first spouses, but thought it would be somewhat disrespectful or lessening to this wedding event to mention the previous ones. I don't believe that a widowed person can't be as happy or even happier in a second marriage, even if they were ridiculously happy in the first one, so the "soulmate" thing doesn't particularly bother me. Of course, I could see how it would be hard to hear as a daughter.
Did your parents have a big wedding? If not, I'd imagine she felt like throwing a big celebration now that she has the means and a pretty great reason. I find people tend to want to celebrate life more with their family and friends after losing people they love.
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November, you truly are a beauty. You're gorgeous! And Miles looked adorable in his little suit. I see Isla has inherited a little bit of the crazy hair too. Congrats on inheriting your mom's looks but not her insanity!
I don't blame you for the name change thing bothering you. I'm sure your mom wasn't even thinking about it and just did it because "that's what you do", but you have every right to feel a little uneasy about it. And the "soulmates" thing was just in poor taste.
Do you have a full length picture of you in your purty dress (where you aren't hiding behind Miles)? I wanna see!
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
See, keeping your name is easiest for SO many reasons! My kids will be used to me having a different name than them, and they won't be traumatized as much by my five divorce/remarriages.
"As of page 2 this might be the most boring argument ever. It's making me long for Rape Day." - Mouse
Yeah, I'm pretty sure they'll be way more traumatized when they find out they were produced with their grandpa's sperm.
"That chick wins at Penises, for sure." -- Fenton
You guys are really too kind. And thank you all for validating my snotty teenage-esque "YOU'RE NOT MY REAL DAD" feelings.
I had to de-gunk my face after the makeup artist decided to go with Staten Island Tranny Chic as the original look, but I think it all ended up being okay.
Cali, I don't have a full length pic on our camera and I'm trying to see if someone else has one. Otherwise, the Etsy seller of my awesome blingy belt will be really annoyed with me because she's specifically asked for pics of the whole ensemble. At the very least, I'm hoping I'll get a pro pic of the dress.
Fenton - you are a wise woman.
You are pretty and the wedding looked very elegant. Miles is so adorable in his little suit! Too cute.
My mom died in 2004 and my dad remarried in 2007. It is so weird even without the name-changing sitch, which would make it weirder. I call her "my dad's wife" - never stepmother. Plus, she's kind of a jerk, so there's that.
Glad it went well!