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What do you do when your friend breaks up with you?
So my MOH has been unable to gain control of her life since high school. It's a long story I won't get into. But I was always there trying to support her, though she would never really let me in. We did consider ourselves best friends at one point, hence her being my MOH. We've been friends for seven-ish years.
But we drifted apart a lot since I got engaged and especially after I got married and moved away. I don't think she can relate to me at all, and I can't really relate to her. So I knew this was coming. Our friendship was getting stressful...for me. I think she was indifferent towards our relationship.
Her latest blog entry seems to imply that I'm ignorant for my opinion about the breast cancer statuses (see post below) and she called me a former friend so I guess there's no beating around the bush, we're really done, though she never told me to my face. Which is fine.
I just feel weird. Like I have no friends left, which I know isn't true, I have one or two kicking around still.
Re: What do you do when your friend breaks up with you?
That's tough. I mean, on many levels it sounds like it's a good thing, but it's still awful to lose touch with someone that you were once close with.
I had a friend breakup earlier this year - the girl in my band. We'd been friends for over ten years, and I wasn't the only one she "broke up" with...but it was overly dramatic and just plain dumb (just like it sounds yours is). I think it's natural for people to drift apart, especially when one person is continuing on with their lives (you, and me in the case with my friend) and the other is stagnant (your MOH and my friend).
I chose to laugh about it, and chalk it up to growing up. Clearly there's some humor in your situation as well. I mean, seriously, who blames a break up with a friend over that DUMB fb "I like it" status?
I hope it feels less weird soon. And who knows - maybe you'll reconnect again in a few years, after she's done some growing up.
January 2, 2010
EDD October 10, 2013