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Unpopular Opinion Thursday
It's finally Thursday. Yesterday seemed very long for me!
My UO for today:
I'm surprised at how many people on this board wouldn't want their husbands to re-marry because they wouldn't want some other woman raising their kids, because they are afraid the children wouldn't be raised right.
I would trust H to raise our children the way we wanted to raise them together; if he remarried, then I would expect that he would marry someone who respects him enough to honor that wish.
Granted, all of this is very hypothetical, but I was miffed. Maybe I'm a little more self-critical, but I would expect there to be many women out there who can raise a child just fine besides me.
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Re: Unpopular Opinion Thursday
I can't watch Teen Mom. I have stayed caught up on what's going on with the whole Amber/Gary thing only because I feel bad for Gary and their little girl. DH and I were talking about how this relationship sounds do much like my brother and his wife.
Long story short, my brother is in an abusive marriage and his wife hits him in front of their kids. Everybody is saying how Gary can just leave when he wants to or just stand up for himself. Its not that easy. Being in an abusive relationship you feel like you can't go anywhere else because that person has made you believe that no one else will love you the way they do. You feel trapped.
I know my brother won't leave because he wants to keep his family together. He has tried before but somehow she has always talked him back in. It's really heartbreaking to watch. I think people have double standards with men being abused by women. If Gary was abusing Amber this would be a totally different story.
I just watched Tuesday's episode yesterday and I can't believe she has Gary so beat down that he thinks everything is his fault. I also call BS on her coming out and saying how sorry she is for abusing him and everything. I feel sorry for Gary and Leah; I really hope he finds a lady that will treat him right.
I also kind of know what your talking about with your brother. My brother is in kind of the same boat. His GF is 10 years older than him and he does everything and I mean everything-his GF doesn't do anything around the house and HE takes care of her neice and nephew that she has custody of but won't let his own son stay at their house, which yes he needs to put his foot down but he wont. It pisses me off to think about it and I am just waiting for the time when I can that skanky biotch off. She has physically abused him in the past but now I think it is just mental abuse. He knows that if he doesn't do what she wants she will kick him out and I think the only reason he stays is because he feels he has no where else to go but to my parents and he doesn't want that.
I get want you are saying. It really is such a sh!tty thing to contemplate though.
As a mother with really young children it really breaks my heart to think of my kids being raised by some other woman and it's just not he raising aspect it's the I don't think anyone can love them as much as I do. Maybe if my kids were older and it happened it would be a different story.
Plus based on the type of chicks H dated before me (and I hope things have changed as he was young and foolish), I would NOT want them raising my kids.
I don't think that I am the only one who can raise a child, or even my child for that matter. I think that there are many moms who are better moms than I am and some that are wose too. I know that if H had to pick, he would pick a good onem but for me, the deal is that parenting isn't one sided. I don't make the parenting decisions and neither does H. We make them together and a lot of it is the two of us talking to figure out what to do. We each come in with our thoughts and talk about why we think that way and come to a conclusion about what to do. I don't think H and another person or me and another person would necessarily come to the same conclusions. I totally trust H and I know that he wouldn't marry someone who beleived drastically differently than we do, but I also think that there are so many things you don't think about until they happen.
I also don't think I am a perfect mom or H is a perfect dad. We def. make our mistakes and we learn from them which often makes us do things differently the second (or third) time around. We did certain things differently with M than we did with V and we will do things differently again with our belly baby I am sure. Someone else doesn't have those insights.
I also agree with cc that no one else is going to love my kids like I do. Plain and simple no can love our kids the way H and I do.
I guess basically, it just sucks to think about not being here to see my kids grow up.
I don't know whether this is really UO or not, but from the moment I heard about that husband who was shot on his jetski on Falcon Lake along the TX/Mexico border, that whole story seemed fishy to me. The wife's story does not make sense to me with her going back and forth between knowing they were taking a risk by going out on a lake with pirates on the Mexican side, and then not knowing they would be in danger because they hadn't heard of any trouble recently. There's been news stories galore about Falcon Lake, and why any sane person would just cross over the Mexico border and not expect to find trouble, is beyond me. Doesn't add up.
I also don't understand these people who take stupid risks with their own lives and then expect other people to risk their lives to save them when they get in trouble. Very selfish.
I agree - if you are going to jet ski in an area you know is dangerous, then you could potentially pay the consequences. And I am not going to feel sorry for you!!!
I think all women should get a monthly pedicure. If you don't do it already, BUDGET THAT! Or go buy yourself a pumice stone and a nice bottle of lotion. Grosses me out.
If you're one of the ones with crusty ass heels--I bet your man cringes every time your flaky feet are by his ears. Nasty heifers...you need to fix that sh!t!
ROTFLMAO!!!!!!
OMG!! That is beyond amazing, I don't think I've laughed that hard in a long time!!
I totally agree with you by the way
It doesn't matter if I'm having the sh!tiest day in the world... You just flat out make my day good. Period.
BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!!! I guess I'm a nasty heifer then. I try to keep up on my feet, but even if I scrub them every day they get dry and I have tried EVERYTHING. I instead budget for a massage every month. It is my wind down time and I love it (plus she keeps my migraines away like no one else can). Oh and H hates feet so he never goes near mine.
My UO is this, I'm tired of rude, snarky, b!tchy people (and no this isn't directed to people on this board, I'm talking in general). Whether you are in line at the grocery store, in traffic, on Facebook, talking about someone's beliefs, or just in general. We are all on this journey together, so help each other out, don't hinder each other. I'm tired of dealing with people who are haters.
I have lots of other UO's, I'm just too tired to think of them right now......
Momma to two angel babies,
Squishy BFP 06/15/2010, EDD 02/21/2011, M/C approx. 07/15/2010
Jellybean BFP 01/29/2011, EDD 10/07/2011, M/C 03/23/2011.
Grow Baby Beet!! BFP 11/21/2011, EDD 07/28/2011.
Keeping fingers crossed that third times the charm.
Make a pregnancy ticker
Me, neither. I only eat it for a sugar rush.
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Me, neither. I only eat it for a sugar rush.
I'm another one who is sick of dealing with b!tchy people. There's no need to be snappy or rude to me if I'm being nothing but nice and genuine to you. I almost got arrested in Texas this weekend because I wanted to snap off at this lady at the hotel who was just flat-out rude to me. Ugh.
My UO is that I HATE professional pedicures. Granted, I've only had three (because I didn't like them) but I find them really uncomfortable (it's a weird tickly-painful thing, and then my calves usually break out from the lotion afterword.)
Maybe I've just never had a good one? Regardless, I'll probably stick to doing my own unless I kind of have to go again (like a bride wants us all to have them done or something.)
UO? I hate when people discuss politics and their love of an extremely polarizing figure with OUT actually knowing the policies behind said figure. No politician in particular, just a vague "OMG... seriously, we have to get Obama out of here... he is... a Marxist and a dictator... all in one." If I ask, "well, umm... why do you think he is a marxist/dictator?" Their reply, "well, because he has death panels set up!"
Educate yourself. Please.
My UO may be that I now have a girlcrush on you (and Tina Fey) based on this
I told my students the other day, "If I ever catch you holding a sign that says 'Obama is a socialist!' I'll know I failed you as a professor in teaching you about different political and economic systems. If you're sign says, 'FDR was a socialist!' then we can talk
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I thought of one after reading the soups post.
Cream of whatever canned soups and canned meat freak me out. Like, I can't cook with them and won't eat them and can tell if something has been cooked with them. I also won't eat canned soups or frozen meals with meat in them.
I like my meat fresh.