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23 and don't want to have sex? HELP!!
Okay, so I am 23 years old, have been with my fiance for 3 years, been living together in our house for almost a full year now... and I never want to have sex. It's not that I am not attracted to him, because I do still think he is very attractive. I don't think about having sex with other guys, either.
For a while, I kept chalking it up to the many stresses going on (new house, bills, school, passing my board exams, etc) but for the most part, besides long hours at work, there isn't too much that should really be deterring me.
When I was younger I was nothing short of a nympho. I wanted to have sex ALL the time, and was just all around a very sexual person. Now I feel... empty. As if that whole part of me has been cut out.
The rest of our relationship is great-- I am really happy with him, and he said the feeling is mutual with this huge exception. This is putting a HUGE strain on my relationship.... and I don't know what is wrong, or how to go about fixing it. I really need help, because I don't want to lose him and I am at a total, utter loss. Please help?
Re: 23 and don't want to have sex? HELP!!
Anything could be at hand here:
BCPs can reduce or kill your sex drive.
Perhaps you've developed a thyroid condition or you've got a hormonal imbalance; see a doc and get a checkup.
Maybe you've fallen into a sexual rut.
Maybe he doesn't turn you on anymore because this relationship has pretty much run its course. You say you're happy on all other fronts; maybe you don't want to admit that the relationship is over; you don't *really* feel the same anymore.
Hormonal birth control is known to do that.
I have PCOS and when it developed (at age 19 or so) it killed my sex drive. I had no desire for years until I started sucessfully treating it, and now it's back. See your doctor- this could be a sign of something hormonal.
Yes, I am on birth control and am hypothyroid which is being treated and managed.I was on Prozac but stopped it almost 3 weeks ago in an attempt to help this.
As far as the relationship having run its course... It has crossed my mind, because wouldn't it make perfect sense? But I have honestly sat down and thought hard about this and don't think that is what's going on. I have no interest in anyone else at all, either.
Just because you are in a dry spell doesn't mean your relationship is over. You are on a lot of medicine, prozac will affect drive ( it may take longer that 3 wks. I would definitely talk to your gynecologist or doctor that can have some real solutions. Are you guys doing anything romantic. Maybe try planning some romantic moments.
Also this happens to me sometimes.... When my husband wants to have sex and i dont feel up to it for whatever reason sometimes I give it a shot and once started I find myself in the mood. ( I do tell him that i am not feeling it but willing to see how it goes). In daily life sometimes sex becomes an afterthought but now is the time to make it a priority cause it really does help maintain that special romantic connection.
I think the Prozac might have a huge factor in this. My ex-BF went on Prozac and basically lost any desire for any sort of physical contact. Definitely nothing sexual, he didn't even feel the urge to hug or kiss me anymore. This was a 180 from before he was on Prozac. The only time he ever wanted to do anything anymore was when he was stoned or took ambien. (Any guesses on why this relationship fell apart?
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I think the Prozac might have a huge factor in this. My ex-BF went on Prozac and basically lost any desire for any sort of physical contact. Definitely nothing sexual, he didn't even feel the urge to hug or kiss me anymore. This was a 180 from before he was on Prozac. The only time he ever wanted to do anything anymore was when he was stoned or took ambien. (Any guesses on why this relationship fell apart?
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I think the Prozac might have a huge factor in this. My ex-BF went on Prozac and basically lost any desire for any sort of physical contact. Definitely nothing sexual, he didn't even feel the urge to hug or kiss me anymore. This was a 180 from before he was on Prozac. The only time he ever wanted to do anything anymore was when he was stoned or took ambien. (Any guesses on why this relationship fell apart?
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I think the Prozac might have a huge factor in this. My ex-BF went on Prozac and basically lost any desire for any sort of physical contact. Definitely nothing sexual, he didn't even feel the urge to hug or kiss me anymore. This was a 180 from before he was on Prozac. The only time he ever wanted to do anything anymore was when he was stoned or took ambien. (Any guesses on why this relationship fell apart?
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