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Marriage + Baby = Sex Life on 'Pause'?
My husband and I were together for two years before we got married, and have now been married for five months. When we first got together, we couldn't get enough of each other. When we had our baby (now 8 months old) of course our sex life kind of got the pause button, but somehow we haven't gotten around to pressing 'play' again. We have sex maybe three times a month...and it's not that we hate each other, or that we don't have chemistry-we're still flirty and very much in love. When we do have sex, it's amazing! ....So why aren't we doing it more? Is something wrong with our relationship? What can I do to help spice things up again?
Re: Marriage + Baby = Sex Life on 'Pause'?
Because you're both fvcking tired?
DH and I are in the same boat, although I will say you're getting it more than me, so "go you!!!!". LOL!
There's nothing wrong with your relationship, your priorities are just elsewhere right now and your child is taking precedence and energy.
Have you tried initiating? Have you tried talking to your H about it?
Have you talked to your husband about it? Babies do complicate things and make things difficult, but if you don't maintain your lines of communication open things will get difficult and unhappy.
Maybe make some time for each other and have a serious talk about how you can increase your activity a bit.
As previously stated. Your mind and body do not work when sleep deprived and exhausted.Brain chemical balance and body hormones are altering your perception, reasoning and ability.
Do not be hard on your self or blame yourself.
THIS!
And you're getting it more than me as well. Between full time work, commute, baby, and basic ncessary chores - besides time, I don't have the energy.
My big plan is to get a friend to babysit on a Saturday at her house (after we've had a day to recoup from the work week and sleep in an extra hour
and seduce DH.