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What do you call your ILs?
I know this was discussed before but I'm just wondering, now that we're all married, how do you address you ILs?
I pretty much avoid calling them anything to their face. If I'm talking to someone else about them I'll usually just call them by their first name. I thought for sure that after we got married I'd call them mom and dad. That hasn't been as easy of a concept to grasp as I thought it would be. If I'm writing them a card or email or something I'll say mom and dad but to their face....not so much. I want to but I just can't yet for some reason.
I'm sure in time I will.
Re: What do you call your ILs?
haha I've been avoiding calling them anything too! I have used mom or dad a few times but I keep forgetting and at times I feel weird.....I dunno. Also MIL points out to be almost everytime I say it that shes likes when I call her mom. But then it makes me shy! She calls her in laws mom and dad.
With his dad forget it, I can't call him dad. It doesn't come out haha.
Wow, I think it would be so weird to call them "Mom" and "Dad."
I call them by their first names.
My dilemma is with the rest of his family. I know they'd like for me to call them "Aunt" and "Uncle" and "Grandma," etc, but I just can't. I've been calling them by their first names (his grandparents I have avoided), but I feel like I'm being disrespectful in their eyes, because they're a little more old-fashioned. But I'm a grown woman, dangit!
First names. My children call them by their first names, too ... even though they adore their new step-grandchildren.
Except for DH's grandmother ... my children and I call her "Momo" just like everyone else in his family.
i do not call ILs by mom and dad. i told Ziggy, i HAVE a mom and dad...i cant call somebody else that. i'll call them by their first names but most of the time i just dont call them anything LOL
he calls my parents by their first names. anything else to me is weird. though, grandparents we call grammy and babcia (grandma in polish). that doesnt feel as strange
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I just call them by their first names. But I introduce them to others as my FIL and MIL. The rest of the family I'm totally cool with referring to them as my "cousin" so and so, or Aunt Marge, or Uncle Jim, etc.
I just feel weird with the whole "Mom and Dad" thing. Feels like I would be dissing my own parents.
I also call my in laws by their first names. In cards, we just write Mom & Dad now (We use to write dually- Mom & Dad/ FILname & MILname).
Aunts & Uncles, we all just use first names. Grandparents we call Grandma or Grandpa name though. That's just what feels right to us.
If I am introducing them, I say ,and these are my inlaws, ____ and ____.
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Same situation here. I have tried out the mom on my MIL, but it feels strange. I have actually talked to my MIL about this and she said just let her know what I prefer. She said that way she knows what to say when she says, "Hi, it's ________" when she calls or leaves a message.
DH calls my parents by their first names too.
I call his grandmother nana and his mom by her first name and dad by Mr. O. He calls my parents Mrs. .. and Colonel (kind of funny to me!). I have a mom and dad and do not want my DH to call my parents mom/dad nor will I ever reference his parents as this. At this point, I'm still struggling with being called Mrs. (insert married name)..... I am a middle school administrator and still prefer to be called Ms. (insert maiden name)! I am not good with change!
I call FMIL by her first name. I really don't know his dad at all, and have only seen him a handful of times in the seven years together... and I think I would feel odd calling him by his first name, or anything.
His grandparents, I have a hard time with. I don't really want to call them by their "grandparent" name (especially now where I've lost my grandmother.. I don't want someone to replace her) but I don't think she likes it when I call her by her first name.
Also, FI calls some of his mom's friends "Miss so and so". I just can't do that.
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I do this too.