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Football Party (SIL) Drama
Well our annual football party was a hit. We had a really good turn out and everyone had a good time.....until about 11:00 pm.
I was in another room mingling with some guests, and chatting. I hear a little bit of a commotion in the living room. I walk out and my SIL (who I'm sure I've posted about before) and one of Nick's friends, we'll call him 'Dave' are covered in leftover cake with red and yellow frosting. This cake with red and yellow frosting is also covering my living room rug, the ONLY shred of carpet within 15 feet of the kitchen and dining room.
At first I just stand there because I can't believe what I'm seeing. There isn't cake/frosting anywhere else but on them and my rug. We have hardwood, tile and leather. Is there cake on any of those fairly easy to clean surfaces? Nope. They went right for the hardest thing to clean. I just stood there with my mouth open.
'Dave' immediately apologizes and started cleaning up the rug. He's on his hands and knees trying to get the spots out. SIL still thinks it's funny, apparently. She's standing there with a sponge, not even trying to clean it up. 'Dave' asks if I see anymore spots that need cleaning, and I point out several. I'm not leaving the rug half cleaned.
SIL says to me sarcastically "What? Do you want me to get down on my hands and knees with a magnifying glass?"
After she says this, I saw red. I went off on her. I wasn't keeping my mouth shut anymore.
I replied "Yes, SIL, I do. Did you pay for this rug? Do you pay to keep this house maintained? No you don't. You have no idea what it takes. I can't believe you would come into our house do something like this, and give attitude about it. You can't just come in here and be disrespectful like that. We work hard for the things we have, I'm not about to let you ruin them".
SIL got all defensive and stormed off after I said that. She's a spoiled brat. She's been given everything, and acts like she works hard for it. She currently lives with her 85 year old grandma (who may now have a heart condition because of stress), and 50 year old dad (who hasn't had a steady job in 25 years), doesn't have a job, and basically brags about it. She says she doesn't feel bad that she doesn't have a job right now because she's going to school full time and WAY to busy to work, and she worked full time for 2 years and paid her dues 
Everyone in her family babies her. People tiptoe around her and are careful not to say the wrong thing becaus she might get upset. Well, not me. I'm sick of her attitude and I refuse to let her get off the hook. She needs to learn to take responsibility for her actions, starting now.
After that, I left for another room because if I didn't things would get worse. 'Dave' stayed and basically cleaned our whole house. He apologized sincerely, and wouldn't leave until the mess was cleaned up. Thankfully a lot of people left before the drama started.
Nick didn't realize why I was so upset and yelling at her until I told him what she said to me. He then understood, and agreed with what I said. I told him that I'm done being nice to her, and I refuse to put up with her attitude. He said he's totally fine with that. She needs to grow up. The cake episode put it over the edge.
So....after everything was cleaned up we went to bed. SIL called me Sunday morning and left a voicemail, but I haven't listened to it yet. Who doesn't love some family drama? Good times, good times.
Re: Football Party (SIL) Drama
I don't get it... did they throw cake at each other?
Sorry, you had to deal with that at your party. How frustrating. Your SIL (and everyone who enables her) sounds like a piece of work. She also sounds like someone who would fit in well in my IL family. Ha!
Yes. They rubbed it in each other's hair/face too.
Last updated 4/06/11
WTH?! Who does that?! I'd be pissed...
Whoa. I'd be pissed too.
Did they get all the cake out of the rug? If not I would hire a carpet cleaner, and then send them the bill.
I'm curious to what she says in the VM. I can't imagine she has much to say other then an apology.
'Dave' got 95% of it out. There are a few spots, but it's on the black part of the rug under the ottoman, so it's simply a matter of quick wiping it off. 'Dave' would have NO problem paying for it or replacing it if needed. He's a super nice guy, he just had a drunken lapse in judgement. I really appreciated the fact that he cleaned everything up and sincerely apologized for everything before he left. He actually told his ride that he's not leaving until he has it all picked it up, he would walk home if need be.
Listened to SIL's message:
She apologized for how things went on Saturday, she was in the wrong. She said she was sorry for letting things get out of hand, and being immature about it. She's sorry for being disrespectful and creating a scene.
She wants me to call her back to discuss it further, but I'm not going to right now. I really don't have anything more to say to her at this point. Perhaps when things have calmed down significantly we'll talk, but not at this time.
I'm glad she came around and apologized. Hopefully when things cool down a bit more you can chat and continue to mend. Maybe even a TM in her direction like "Appreciate the apology" or something would give her some feedback that apologizing was the right thing to do - ya know? When she acts mature (by apologizing) and gets appreciation for that, she'll be more likely to be mature in the future I would think.
I think you're right. I probably should.
this! I'm sorry about that stress! I would have been FURIOUS!