so have you had the talk yet.....

moleson99 · October 2010

So just wondering how many of you have talked about babies yet with your DH and if so when you might start trying. My DH has had baby fever for a while now. We've been together for 4 1/2 years already (living together for 3 of those yrs.) , so I think we're going to jump in to trying to get KU. I know we just got married, but anyone else thinking they might try soon?

Musicheals71 · October 2010

As you may or may not know, moleson99, babies are a non-issue for us since I had my hysterectomy a little over two years ago. And I'm not going to adopt either. I have two wonderful boy cats that I call my sons and that's enough for me! Besides, DH has a 22 yo daughter and 18 yo son from his first marriage, so he wasn't looking to have any more kids himself.

PB-Bride2010 · October 2010

We have talked about it and have decided we will at least wait until our honeymoon, which isn't until March of next year. We didn't want to go on our honeymoon with a bump in my stomach, but we are starting to look at possible names. So, yes we both have a touch of the fever!!!

Kaz0918 · October 2010

DH is chomping at the bit for babies. We just bought a new car last week and his comment to everyone is how he is so excited that a car seat would fit prefectly in the backseat. But we both agreed that, like PB we're going on our honeymoon next June and it wouldn't really be our dream honeymoon if I was KU. Then we're also going up to Eugene for the Ducks vs Cal game next year and I don't want to be pregnant for that either.

However, our best friends that have gone with us on this traditional Eugene trip got pregnant with their first child on this trip, so that's not entirely out of the question

debdebdol · October 2010

Yup and we won't be having kids for at least 5 years! Still too much we want to do (travel, school, buy a home). We want to be ready when we have them.

tbearsangel · October 2010

I;m not sure how long we are going to wait. I am trying to keep the fever at bay right now, but I have been noticing lots of "family vehicles" in my face right now (I am sort of in the market for a 'new' one so we'll see. I would really like to have a steady job in my field first, but it's been 4 years and nothing yet, so I am getting tired of waiting for that milestone.

I guess I sort of figure if we wait until we're 'ready' we never will be.

mullen24 · October 2010

Baby Fever in our house is like the phillies and their winning streak lately!!!

MissyCee · October 2010

We talked about kids awhile ago, before getting engaged. We are going to wait a few years or so. I'm still young, 23, so we aren't in a huge rush and we want to be financially ready and also get some things accomplished first like traveling and such.

emilyann21 · October 2010

We've talked about and we both want them but we're waiting. We want DH to finish school first before we have a baby. Plus, I have a baby nephew that I (we) can spoil and give back which is enough to keep us in check, for now.

lovethebeach16 · October 2010

Kinda. We talked about it before we got engaged and decided that one kid is good and we'd get around it to by the time we're both 30. So in 5 years.

I'd like to do some traveling and buy a house first. That and I'm still not even close to having baby fever. I still think other peoples kids are cute because they go home. And I'm not ready to give up sleeping in and having anything more dependent on me than the cat.

ETA: Oh I looked at a new Focus last weekend and did take note that the backseat is big enough for a carseat, but since I keep cars for 5+ years, that doesn't really mean much.

LauraT25 · October 2010

We talk about it all of the time. It's difficult, because we both really want kids ASAP, and I think Jeff has baby fever even worse than I do. But we really need to wait a bit until we have actual jobs, and a real income, and something bigger than a one-bedroom apartment. At this point, we would love to have a baby, but it's just not a feasible option. Probably at least two more years.

eMiLee920 · October 2010

We've discussed it. I'm also trying to keep the fever at bay. I do want time with just my husband, but I don't want to wait too long and make it harder.

DH panics everytime I bring up the subject. He wants to wait til we're "financially ready" which I have pointed out will be NEVER. You're never really ready to have a baby. I think in a year or so I'll be able to wear him down. Part of it too, is he really wants time for us to get used to being a family ourselves, before we start adding.

exictedbride · October 2010

We have talked about it many times. We really don't want to have children, but in case we change our minds we agreed that we will wait 5 to 7 years and then revisit the topic. If we do decide somewhere down the road to have children I want to be mostly done with school, own a home, and be financially stable. We have too much to achieve as a couple before we would expand into a family.

We did go car shopping last week though and looked at a Ford Edge which the salesman made sure to point out that there is enough room carseats.

LiaDee · October 2010

We've definitely talked about it. We both really want kids, but we're going to way 2-3 years to give ourselves some time to settle, save and just have fun. Hopefully get to travel more, and buy a house. Dave is really excited about being a dad when the time is right, it's so sweet. I had baby fever--I always kind of do just because I LOVE babies?but it's funny now that we're married the feeling has dulled a little. I am really happy to be just married, getting to sleep in and enjoy lots of one-on-one time.

When it's time for babies, we'll be really happy but for now we love our sleep and freedom!

kmb6881 · October 2010

We're trying to wait at least a year. The time frame keeps getting shorter and shorter. Lol. We love kids but we know it's important for us to spend time working on ourselves and our relationship first.

That being said, we were supposed to wait two months to get our puppy and we only waited a week...

Northstar1808 · October 2010

DH wants kids more than I do but we both know we are not financially ready. We agreed to wait about 5 years. We want to travel and stuff and enjoy our time together before we have kids since it's never been just the two of us. My dad's traditional and we couldn't move in until we were married.

brew311 · October 2010

We are still very much on the fence. Neither of us are in careers, just jobs. Who knows if we ever will be, but it'd be nice.

I also have fertility issues which I'm really afraid to confront. I do not want to be told that I can never have kids, it would crush me. However, MIL is psychic and sees twins in our future. Which would result from fertility drugs. My bday is Wedsnesday and I'm only getting older (33), so I'm getting the fever a smidge, like we better hop on it!

DH however, is terrified of babies, so who knows.

Lauriac · October 2010

We had "the talk" before we even got married. I have no interest in having kids. H hadn't really considered it when it was first brought up, but in subsequent conversations has said that he likes our life the way it is and doesn't really want to change it to fit a baby. The bottom line is that I think H and I are too selfish to have babies.

However, if H changes his mind and very passionately argues his point, we'll end up having kids because I love him more than I dislike children. I do not see this happening though, so I'm not too worried.

JenniferLuvsCandy · October 2010

YEP! I am charting already and in the next couple months we will start trying. I am a frequent lurker on the Getting Pregnant board.

I am 31 and he is 39 so there is a timing issue a well as the fact that I have a 14 year old and he has none.

We are excited for a mini us!

starrynight1658 · October 2010

My DH has also had baby fever for some time--we joke that he was ready for kids before he was ready to get married. I know that we're both ready for kids, it just seems like a HUGE step. We're planning to start TTC in April after our late honeymoon.

Side note: I've been floored over how many people suddenly feel it's ok to start inundating us with "when's the baby coming" type questions now that we're married. Anyone else getting this??

JenniferLuvsCandy · October 2010

Nope but that is because we laid out our timeline for all the world before we were even married!

LauraT25 · October 2010

Starrynight -

People have been bugging us with that question for years. I do think it's a bit rude. I guess there have been a few extra people who asked somewhat casually about it, who haven't brought it up before, but I don't find it to be much different.

mushE · October 2010

Like candy Jennifer, we'd been pretty open about our plans to TTC right after the wedding because we're both ready (careers, house, both over 30). I thought that would make us somewhat immune to those nosy comments, but no - coworker asked me the other day if I'm already PG. She said 'the whole office' was talking about how I should have a honeymoon baby. Ugh.

angiem33 · October 2010

We have talked and the decision is that babies are not for us! There is so much going on I still need to finish school, take the bar, get settled in a career. So much traveling needs to be done.... :-) Plus I really really don't like kids!

SusieQ1981 · October 2010

starrynight1658:

Side note: I've been floored over how many people suddenly feel it's ok to start inundating us with "when's the baby coming" type questions now that we're married. Anyone else getting this??

We were pretty open with family & good friends about our TTC plans. But those went out the window when I got KU. However, I just had a coworker pose the question to me last week - and I haven't yet made my pregnancy public news at work yet. Plus, I'm a lousy liar, so it was hard to blow it off - hopefully she's none the wiser. Can't wait to tell my boss in a couple weeks and not have to keep this secret anymore!

arosem23 · October 2010

Yes - We've talked about it and probably won't start trying until Spring of next year. We aren't really planning on telling anyone that we are trying.

DatsyuksMommy · October 2010

We talked about it a month or so before the wedding, and we're already TTC!

ETA: The only ones giving us the questions are my brother and SIL. They're anxious to give my niece a cousin.

rien713 · October 2010

I miscarried at the start of this year, and DH has been ready to try again ever since. (I wasn't.) Seriously considering just not refilling BCP when this pack runs out and see what happens. This is about the time I got pregnant last year, so I think it's giving me some serious baby fever.

I'll be 28 in December - I know that's nothing really, but when I started doing timelines in my head, we want two, have first at 28 if all goes well, take a year or breather and enjoy being parents to her/him, then start trying again - the clock just started ticking very loud and fast for me! Better get this show on the road. =P

lizziepants · October 2010

I have baby fever bad! We have definitely talked about having kids, but haven't totally talked about when. For some reason, I am really nervous to bring it up. I feel like I should enjoy just being married for awhile, but I really do want a baby! I am not getting any younger either. I am going on 33 in December.

leolyns · October 2010

Yep - but we both want to seek doctors opinion to make sure we're both fertile enough to produce our own offspring.

JRSonday · October 2010

We're both sitting at about 2-4 years. I think he'd like it to be earlier, but I'd like it to be a bit later. We have a 9-year-old (his from previous relationship), and if we wait 4 years, then she'd be 18/graduating when first child goes into kindergarten. I'd be pretty stoked if kiddo did not have to go to GA public schools (which are notoriously bad in our area especially).

so have you had the talk yet.....

Re: so have you had the talk yet.....

Choose Another Board

Search Boards