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Poll: how much do you share with DH?

I was telling DH some sensitive information last night and as soon as I dropped the news he said, "I really wish you hadn't told me that."  It was about a close friend of mine and now he's worried about how he'll act around this person when we see them next.  So that got me thinking... do I share too much?
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Re: Poll: how much do you share with DH?

  • I think I share everything with DH.  I figure if he doesn't want to hear it, he can just tell me he doesn't want to hear about that.
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  • I voted the first option but that's not entirely true.  I give him the Cliffs Notes version of stuff sometimes... just enough so he won't accidentally bring up a bad topic at dinner parties but not any more detail than he needs.
    Help for Haiti: Learn What You Can Do

    BFP 12.20.2010 :: missed m/c 1/2011 around 8 weeks
    BFP @ 9dpo 5.24.2011 :: missed m/c 6/2011 around 7 weeks
    positive for ANAs (1:40) with a speckled pattern
    MTHFR c677t mutation (heterozygous)
    *folic acid, baby asprin, Prometrium, acupuncture, Lovenox*
    BFP @ 9dpo 2.1.2012 || HCG = 8 : Progesterone = 19.2
    2nd HCG @ 11dpo = 40 || 3rd HCG @ 21dpo = over 5000!
    Stick, little one, stick! EDD October 15, 2012
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  • I tell mind pretty much everything.  There are some things about my past (I had a really crappy family at times growing up) that I haven't told him just because it's sad and I made it through so it doesn't really matter now. 
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  • I tell DH everything and if I don't it's because the source wants to tell him themselves. He and I really don't keep anything from each other and if it's involving something personal about someone else we always give the other a heads up because it may be something the other doesn't want to get too involved in. I guess it just depends on the matter. 

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  • We're pretty open -- I think I probably tell DH about a lot more things he doesn't want to know about than vice versa. Think along the lines of the scene in "Knocked Up" where the wife says "Ugh, not tonight, I'm feeling a little constipated," haha. Usually the only things I hold back are things that might cause an argument or extra annoyance because I try to choose my battles wisely.
  • i tell DH pretty much everything - maybe not with the same details as i would with my best friend, but he gets the gist of it. if i can't tell him, then who can i trust to talk to???
  • I am a mix between the first and second options. I try to be discreet about really sensitive topics and keep secrets when asked. If the secret puts me in a weird emotional place, I will often tell the person telling me that I don't keep things from DH. If they don't want him to know, they shouldn't tell me. 

    The funny thing is that I sometimes neglect to tell DH important stuff because I blabber to him so much that I think I've already told him. Ha! 

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