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Okay, how many of you had some serious drama while wedding planning?
Because this wedding I'm in next summer... holy crap. After spending the weekend with the MOH (my cousin J - her younger sister K [yes, also my cousin] is getting married), I feel like I'm watching a family fall apart. The MOH is so embittered about her little sis getting married that she's behaving ridiculously.
Now, it's not just that J is jealous. It's all the fact that the man K is marrying happened to cheat on her the night before he flew in to Hawaii for our wedding while he was having his once yearly coke binge weekend.
Neither the cheating, nor the coke are sitting well with J. Apparently K + finac? went into couples therapy after, but they have blow up arguments every 6 months or so, and this also seems to tell J that they're clearly not destined to be together, and that she doesn't want to support them.
Did any of you have family members who disapproved of your marriage? Do you still have a relationship with them?
Re: Okay, how many of you had some serious drama while wedding planning?
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Yikes!
I can't think of anyone who disapproved of our marriage. I was concerned that my grandmother might be against my marrying a non-Chinese guy, but if she did, I never heard about it. I have very infrequent contact with her (a handful of times a year) and she only met V when she came over for the wedding.
The biggest drama that happened for me was that I decided to invite my uncle's partner, and my dad was mad that I didn't check with him first (to make sure it was OK to invite a gay couple). He eventually came around though. I stand by my decision - it was mine to make, not my dad's - and in my mind, it wasn't even a question.
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That's a really tough spot you're in -- especially since J seems to have pretty legit reasons, wanting to look out for her sis (jealousy aside). I'm not sure that any peacemaking can be done there, you know? It might have to play out between them for better or for worse.
No huge drama. I didn't invite my cousins since I have two dozen, all are married, all have kids, and I haven't seen them in 20 years. I just didn't have the room or budget. They apparently were livid--one cousin went as far as calling every single cousin to see if they'd gotten an invite. I told my mom they could talk to me directly if they wanted to, but that we just didn't have the space or money for them. No one called me, but one cousin did end up coming somehow.
Yeah, I agree.
I think the question for me has become less and less about whether I support the marriage, but more about whether I want to have a relationship with K. She's going to marry him one way or the other, so there's no point in being anything but supportive.
On top of that, I'm not entirely convinced that J was telling me the truth when she told me about K's fianc? cheating and with the drugs. She has a habit of expanding on the truth. So, I feel like, without knowing exactly what's happened, I really shouldn't be getting all judgmental.
Alyson & Phil | Planning Bio | Married Bio!
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That's way too much drama for me!
We didn't have anyone disapprove of our relationship. The closest thing we had to drama was that Mark's one uncle is divorced. The wife he divorced is Mark's godmother and was a close friend of my Mom's growing up. It was a pretty unexpected break up (but years ago) and they just avoid each other. We decided we wanted his godmother to read at the wedding. We weren't sure if she would want to but she cried and said yes. Both aunt and uncle are in new relationships and everyone came to the wedding and was civilized.
I didn't have anyone disapprove of my marriage, but two of my small-minded family members popped off comments about DH's religion which pissed me off to no end despite the fact that they think he's a great, caring man.
I have been a bit distant from my uncle in NJ ever since that happened and he knows damn well why. We talk ever so often, but only in small doses and when he strays off topic to talk crap, I just cut him off.
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