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1 in 4 couples sleep in separate bedrooms.
I'm watching Oprah (I know... but it's naptime!) and they're talking about this topic and apparently it's more common than a lot of people realize. Apparently 25% of couples sleep in separate bedrooms.
What do you think of this?
Re: 1 in 4 couples sleep in separate bedrooms.
I guess DH and I are part of that 25%. We do sleep in seperate beds only because we see each other every day all day so that is our time away. We hang out until we want to go to sleep and then he goes to the guestroom. Plus he stays up later than I do and he snores so it works out great.
I know not everyone agrees with it but it's what works for us. So I wake up more refreshed and I don't want to punch him by noon the next day.
I sleep in our guest bedroom A LOT. I am very restless and tend to toss and turn and stress out in the middle of the night. Many, many times I have woken up the hubs in the middle of the night talking in my sleep about accounting. Usually when we go to bed I know if it is going to be a restless night and in that case, we snuggle for awhile and I go to the guest bedroom. As my work stress increases, the chances of me sleeping away from him increases as well.
Its cute though because when I sleep in the guest bedroom, Lilli will lay on my side of the bed next to the hubs and Niles will follow me and cuddle with me all night long. Niles will get really close to my face and put his little paws on my face as if to say "Don't fret mom, it will be okay." Its the damn cutest thing ever.
I believe the stats. It's one of those things no one wants to admit to because of how it's perceived.
DH and I frequently sleep in separate beds. We had some frustrating nights/mornings until we realized that hey, sleep is important and we have to do what makes US happy and well-rested. We snuggle for awhile in my bed and then DH leaves to go to sleep. Then, most mornings, I get up, shower, and then go wake up DH and cuddle for a few minutes.
Needless to say, we're both horrible light sleepers who need at least 8 hours of sleep every night.
Once in awhile, if I'm not sleeping well, H will sleep on the sofa (we don't have a guest room...no one stays here!) and I get a very restful night's sleep
He doesn't really mind the sofa. It's usually because he's snoring.
He doesn't snore nearly as much since he cut back on his drinking and lost some weight. Imagine that.
I believe the stats, though. Seems like it came up in conversation the other day in the car.
I like sleeping next to my H, but there are nights that I just can't do it. Our bed and our extra bedroom bed feel completely different. So, on the nights that I can't get comfortable, I always get up and move to the extra room and usually end up sleeping amazingly well. I'll also sleep in there when H has to be up super early or has a long day - I'm a toss-and-turner.
While I'd rather sleep next to H, I always end up sleeping amazingly well when I head to the extra room.
After V was born, I couldn't sleep with H in the bed becuase every time he moved it was excruciatingly painful to me. He stayed on the bed in the nursery until we moved V to his own bed when he was 14 months old.
After M was born, H couldn't sleep through all the noise M made while nursing at night so he slept on the couch until she was probably 6-7 months old and then he slept with us on the weekends and on the couch when he had to go to work.
Now that M is in her own room H and I sleep together again, but I imagine that once this baby is born H will be on the couch again for awhile.
It worked for us, but I know it is not for everyone. I like sleeping with H now, and it if you had asked me 5 years ago, I would have said we would never sleep apart. I'm still shocked when other couples don't sleep together even though we didn't for so long.
I totally violate HIPPA in my sleep! I'll be jabbering on about my patients or something and DH will ask me the next day "hey, did so and so's pneumonia clear up or did you have to transfer him?" He thinks its hilarious when I'm looking at him like "wtf? I didn't tell you about that..."
We don't sleep in separate beds though, even though I am a restless sleeper and after over a year of deployment I'll take his loud azz snoring any day.
I'm another one of those people where, if it's gonna be a restless night, I need space. I usually wind up sleeping on the couch because our couches are comfy. Or, H will sleep on the floor - that's what he did growing up. He NEVER slept in a bed until we started dating.
While I was pregnant, the only comfortable place I could sleep was the couch, so I spent a lot of time there. Now, H and I sleep in the same bed, but it's not rare for us to sleep in two separate places.
Wow! I am glad we are not the only ones! It makes the hubs "sad" when we don't sleep together, but I think he has figured out if I can go off on my own and actually sleep then I am much more pleasant to be around the next day.
We just got a new mattress and it sure helps but...there is something very comforting about my single, girl, pre-real world bed (that is the bed in our guest room) that seems to make everything in my life so much better.
This is why we did it too. I'm much more pleasant if I don't have to wake up every hour at night!