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Mothers on facebook
Hello to all. I was wondering what everyone's opinions or experiences are with their mothers on facebook. Mine apparently just got one recently and has requested me as a friend. I'm not so keen on this, I think. My mother is very very conservative and straight-edge and me, well, I like to occasionally cuss on my FB, my husband likes to put inappropriate videos and such on there, which I comment on/laugh at (and I'm kind of scared she'll add him too, which I DON'T think is a good idea!), and there are pictures which I don't know if I want her seeing (like from my Bach party).
So is your mom your FB friend? Any problems with it? Do you feel like you have to censor yourself? I'd love to hear ya'lls opinions! TIA!
Re: Mothers on facebook
They have amazing settings for privacy controls now. Id figure out what you want for settings & then add her. Im friends with my whole family & Jeffs whole family. A few I make so they cant see albums of us at parties but mostly they know how we are & I let it all out. They also know what to say & what not to say status wise but if I had problems with that stuff Id just make it so they couldnt see certain ones.
I have ignored repeated requests from my MIL. I don't think she needs to be all up in my business.
I would probably have a hard time saying no to my mom though. I agree with Maine, set the privacy controls so that she can only see certain things!
I'm friends with both of my parents (although my dad gets on about once a year). I don't really worry about it. I think it would have been weird in college, especially the first couple years when I partied more. Now though I feel like I'm an adult and it would be silly for me to worry too much about what my mom thinks about my language, humor, etc.
The things that make me pause are when people like my younger cousins (or H's younger cousins who have extremely sheltered lives) request me as a friend. I use privacy settings to make sure they can't see a lot of things, but I still don't worry much about it.
Edit: I'm also friends with MIL. But I have good relationships with all parents/ILs and they usually just roll their eyes at anything they find inappropriate. They're not mean about anything and won't get all psycho if they see something they don't like.
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Well, my parents have only met my husband twice. And him in his true form is NOT the kind of guy my mother usually cares for or would want her daughter to marry. *I'M* fine with how he is, but I don't really want my parents to start talking behind his back about the kind of guy he really is.
MIL, on the other hand, is the easy one! She's on mine (and H's too), and is no problem. I was kinda bummed when I saw my mother got a FB, honestly. SHE'S the one I don't want all "up in my business".
I'll have to see what I can do about the privacy settings... but I may just opt to ignore her request....
I'm friends with both my mom and MIL on FB. I don't really "censor" myself, but I have friends on FB from all of my friend groups... work, college, HS, church, my age, younger and older. I don't really feel it's appropriate for me to curse and/or be vulgar on FB because of all my various friend groups, not just my mom.
Also... I'm not comfortable laying anything all out on FB, privacy settings or not. I don't put anything up there that I wouldn't want my employer seeing or that doesn't cast a good light on me. It's not like I have drunken debacles anymore, anyway, though.
Now if she would have asked me while I was in college...
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i'm friends with my mom on FB. i can't think of anything i put on there that wouldn't be appropriate. and my mom really isn't the type to get all offended with something i post. i'm also friends with a couple of "higher-ups" at work so i woudn't want to post anything that would be inappropriate for them to see either. i can't think of anything that i would post that would make me look bad anyway.
and my IL's are both teachers and refuse to have a FB so no worry there. but i'd be friends with them if they did.
Ahhh I see. In that case, take some time to mess with your privacy settings before you accept a friend request. And hopefully she won't be 'friending' your H anytime soon!
1) My mother would never have a FB page.
2) If she did, there is no way I would add her.
There are things that I and other people post that are not appropriate for my mother. And while I could limit what she sees that I post, I could not really control what she sees that others would post.
Any friends I have on FB know who and how I am. I don't feel the need to censor myself for friends. Cause if they don't like what I say, they can delete me.
I have never had a completely honest relationship with my mother. There are some things that are none of her business, as my mother. You know?
I wouldn't do it. But it seems I am going against the majority here.
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Oh and Z, I totally get what you are saying due to me knowing a bit about your family. From the stories that you have shared, I can see why you would have reservations about adding her.
Do what feels right for YOU. Not everyone has a mom like Midgey. LOL. Her mom is awesomesauce and lets Midgey be Midgey.
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Haha! My original answer was going to be why the hell would you want your mom to be your FB friend, but then I remember how cool is Midgeymoo's mom and I censored myself.
LMAO! Exactly! I love her mom. If my mom could be that cool about stuff, I would maybe entertain the notion. But sadly, my mom just ain't with it!
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V, my 12 year old sister is a friend on FB and she asks me all the time "why don't you have a wallllllll??? I want to post on your STUFFFFFFFF!!!!! Are you blocking meeeee?????" (she's a charmer, for sure) I have the settings blocked so that she can't see a wall at all on my page. I even block her from my mobile uploads, just in case LOL
(I am fb friends with tons of family members- aunts, uncles, cousins, my dad & step-mom- but they can all kiss my as$ if they don't like what I post heh)
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I'm friends with my mom, MIL and FIL (though the ILs don't really use it much). I'm pretty close with my mom and there's not really anything I put on there that I wouldn't want her to see (or that she probably doesn't already know/would surprise her).
Honestly, I'm more worried about what MY mom will put on there to embarrass me!
I would probably accept her and modify the privacy settings so she can't see photos that people tag you in, your wall, or whatever you want to keep private. I did this with my nephew.
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My mom has facebook, and she is my friend. As long as some of my Aunt and Uncles.
They know me, my personality, and that i dont hide a thing, if they dont like it they dont need to read it or see it.
I dont censor myself. or anything, Dont delete pics or comments.
And 1/2 my friends requested my mom LOL
EDIT:: PS just read through the rest of the post and saw what KNIBS and BRIT said about my mom and AWWWWWWWWWW
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It is true, she lets me be me, and honestly loves to read the BS and Laughs I have with some of u ladies!