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Soo... fresh after the departure of my inlaws...

... my BIL has decided that he'd like to get his alcoholic butt out of England. You see, he heard all this amazing stuff about Canada and about how lovely Phil and I were.

And hospitable. Apparently we're very hospitable.

So, out of the blue this week, he applied for a working-holiday visa and wants to stay with us for a month ("or so") while he finds work. He's going to come out in February.

Insert weary sigh __________here______________.

See... I like my BIL (even though he's a big moper), but I do not want him living on our couch for longer than a week!  We do not have the room, nor do I have the patience.

Who's got tips and techniques for getting rid of relatives without ruining relationships?

Re: Soo... fresh after the departure of my inlaws...

  • I don't have any advice but want to say good luck. If he does decide to stay with you hopefully it will be a short and painless stay.
  • Sadly, I think your best hope is to not let him in the house in the first place.
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  • My BIL quickly moved out of our house when he was living here unemployed and I started leaving him a list of chores I needed him to do when I was at work. 

    I feel for you...and I keep crossing my fingers that my BIL and my brother don't both end up moving in with us in the next couple of weeks, since they are now both unemployed.  If they do, I say you and I plan a brother-free girls' vacation somewhere!

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  • I have no advice I just want to say that it sucks.
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  • How does Phil feel about his brother staying with you?  The most important thing is to let Phil know that you're okay with BIL staying with you for a week and not much longer. Then, Phil has to tell his brother what the parameters are of staying with you. This is a tough situation but you need to let Phil know how you feel so that he can talk to his brother.

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  • Yeah, he says a week too, but there are a lot of what ifs involved. It's not like we can throw him out if he doesn't find somewhere to live that first week... and it's very likely he might not. He is emigrating for the year without a job lined up and people tend not to rent to those without jobs. He won't know anyone else in the city except us.

  • That's a pretty crappy situation.  Sorry. 
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  • I know this is kind of annoying advice, but if you can't avoid him staying with you in the first place, I think you and Phil just have to be as helpful as possible.  Like, help him find an apartment - check out classifieds, suggest neighborhoods, whatever it takes.  Then you're not the bad guy but at the same time you're moving the process along and getting him out.

    Now jumping domestically.

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    Well that was a crazy couple of years.

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  • Definitely a crappy situation. Sorry! I think Leo is right though. The more you help him out, the sooner that he'll be out of your place.
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