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Deer in the headlights. . . Porn
So, on occasion I look at porn on the internet. (whew, that felt good to get out) I have been this way since I was little. I used to watch porn while mom was away. . . she should not have paid for all the channels!
Anyway, I never got caught and I never revealed to ANYONE that I like it. I figured it was bad and that nice girls should never watch it and definately not enjoy it.
Last night, I was watching some rather racy lesbian porn and DH was asleep in the living room. . . or so I thought. He opened the door and was like, "What are you doing?" I turned but the room was dark so he really couldn't see my face. "Uh, watching porn."
"Why?"
"Don't worry about it. Just close the door!"
He closed the door. I was so scared that I turned it off and turned off the computer and slept on the couch. (he went into the bedroom) So, today he thinks I am mad at him and has offered to buy me lunch. I mentioned that I was embarassed but I don't think he paid any attention over the phone. Not sure what to do in this situation. Not sure if I can look at him in the face again.
Re: Deer in the headlights. . . Porn
haha probably not that best way to react to him seeing you. I doubt that he would have a problem with you watching porn (he probably watches it himself) but of course he would think you're mad or something is wrong with the relationship if he catches you watching porn and then you decide that you don't want to sleep in the same bed as him after wards! Think about if it was you catching him and then instead of him coming in afterwards to cuddle he sleeps on the couch that night...probably wouldn't feel awesome.
There's nothing wrong though with watching porn, a TON of girls do it!! (good ones even!) Maybe you and your H can even watch them together every now and then, it can be pretty hot having things done to you as you're watching the screen. Instead of being embarrassed or ashamed try sharing this, it might even bring you and your H closer together.
In any case, if you're that taken back by the situation, talk to him. Let him know that you like watching this, that it turns you on, makes you feel good. Maybe ask him what kind of stuff he likes to watch. Having a dialog about it where no body judges might be liberating for you.
Yes this is true. I have watched a porno with MH and he fell asleep. He is one of those rare guys that does not masturbate nor does he like porno. He said it kinda got boring since he watched it so much as a kid. So, I guess the roles are reversed because I watch it and sometimes masturbate to it. I am not obsessed with watching it and all may be once every other week I will watch it but that is about it.
When we spoke this morning over the phone once he got to work he asked me if I was mad at him because I did not get him up this morning nor did I set the alarm clock. I told him no and avoided eye contact. I tried to lie to him and I just couldn't.
Also too, his brother's friend got married and his wife left him a month after being married for another woman. I am fearful that if I knows I watch lesbian porn that I have the potential to go that way. I watch more than just lesbian porn but that is what he caught me watching.
When he gets home for lunch I will tell him what happened and my thoughts and feelings. Thanks for the advice, I feel much better!
You are NOT alone.
I like watching it too. I watch it more then DH.
DO NOT be embarrassed, nothing wrong with it at all.
We kinda put humor into the fact that I like watching it more then hubby. : )
Good luck... oh, and I like watching women porn also.
He came home from lunch and made it seem like it was not a big deal!!!! *shocked face*
In fact, he said that he still watches it . . . but with his COUSIN? *confused look*
I had to ask him why he does not watch it with me but he watches it with his cousin while having a couple of beers. He laughed and said it did sound pretty bad but then went on to say, "I dunno. He always puts it on when I am there. I have no problem watching porn with you."
I feel much better but in awe that his cousin makes him watch porn with him. That should go into a new post in itself.
haha my highschool guy friends used to do this too, when they were hanging out they'd put in a porn and watch while they drank. Apparently it was the 'thing to do' back then but when my friend told me they did this I didn't understand at all, I mean for ME porn is something that you use to turn yourself on or to use with your partner as a way mix it up a bit...but to just sit there with friends and chill out while watching...this is just weird to me. I wonder if his cousin is younger? or single and thinks it's manly or something. lol I hope your H calls him out on it! haha
but awesome that you talked about it! I'm not surprised that he was okay with it (heck, a lot of guys would probably find the thought of their girl watching sexy movies kinda hot!).
He is one of those rare guys that does not masturbate nor does he like porno.
I love when women say this! lol
I'm more into porn than DH. However, he's never walked in on me
yet.
I would just make a joke and be like "I'm all fired up...wanna take over for the vibe?"
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His cousin is older by about 15 years!!! LOL!!
Hmmm. . . if he catches me again I think that will be the next thing said! LOL!!
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Sometimes I feel the same way.
We were out at Hustler one evening and I saw the Kim Kardashian porn and he looked pretty shocked to hear me say I wanted to either buy it or download it.
When I went home and downloaded it I was not sure what he'd think when i started to watch it on my laptop. He doesn't care that I am curious about it but sometimes it's a little uncomfortable to have him know I look at it occassionally.
If he were looking at it a lot though I would feel really insecure about myself. Stupid, I know. But sometimes porn takes all of the beauty out of sex and exists for different purposes. Porn is not intimacy. But sometimes it's nice to know we can look as good as Kim K and some of these other ladies who are portrayed to be super gorgeous/flawless.
It's erotic, but not creepy. That's why I like it!
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I secretly watch porn on my own also. I do watch it with my husband as well, but most times we are just making fun it. I know it sounds crazy, but most people think that we have a wierd relationship. They think that we are too much like friends than lovers. I love our relationship and have no complaints, but I do love watching porn too!
I know I would be embarrassed if he caught me watching it by myself.
Glad it worked out for you. Maybe you can use it to your advantage and add a little more spice to things.