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This feels like a Monday and a question
The phones won't stop ringing, people won't stop asking me to do stuff, I can't get time to work on my own stuff, this feels like Monday lol
I also have a question for you girls. Do you ever take food or snacks into work to share with everyone? If you do, do people constantly ask you to bring stuff in? I bring something maybe once or twice a month but I'm constantly being asked to. I don't care to bring something occasionally but I can't afford to feed the office everyday. HH says I should take it as a compliment, and I do. I really appreciate that everyone loves my cooking, I just don't think its fair for one or two people to bring food in when no one else contributes.
I guess I'm just a little annoyed because I brought in some cupcakes Monday morning. Yesterday I made HH a birthday cake (today's his birthday), as soon as I walk in this morning I'm asked where the birthday cake is. Ummm its at home, why would I bring it when my HH has only had one piece? Sorry that was so long!
Re: This feels like a Monday and a question
Well... I would probably be sweet but honest about it. When people ask where their goodies are, say something like "Oh, I'm glad you liked the cupcakes! I made the birthday cake for HH, though, so it's at home so he can enjoy it."
If they keep pushing, say something like "I'm glad you like my cookies; I wish that I could bring something in every day, but maybe I'll be able to make something next week. We'll see."
I've said something like this before, people just don't listen...
Just do what you can when you want to and don't worry about others. It can certainly get expensive if you're baking and cooking for the whole group every week so only do it when you actually want to.
Maybe try to make a joke out of it like, "They're not paying me to be a professional chef!" Or tell them they can start up a collection fund for your baking supplies if they want more regular treats ;-)
To be perfectly honest, that would pisss me off. I love baking, but it's expensive!! I usually end up making treats because I want, like...one muffin, and then I send the rest in with Dave to work so that I don't end up eating them all. But for people to hound you to bring them food? Umm...shut up fatties.
Tell them that (a) ingredients are expensive, (b) your time is valuable to you, and (c) if they want treats they need to stop being so rude and pay you. You are not a bakery.
Dammit, I have no freaking patience for people like that. Also, I am in a bad mood in general today so I would probably snap at someone if they were to say that.
Is it because you're young and cute that they think they can get away with this shiz?
ahahahahahhahahahahahahahhahaha!!!!
Everytime I tell them I don't have time to make something they say "what do you mean you don't have time? you don't have kids, you have plenty of time!" that really ticks me off. Just because I don't have kids does not mean I don't have a busy life. I will not ignore my husband in the evenings to bake for you.
Sounds good to me.
Also, if they keep telling you that you have all the time in the world because you don't have kids, you can just say "Maybe not, but I do have other priorities that come before baking."
I have a coworker who is always telling me that Matt and I should go to the movies all the time (it's one of her favorite things to do, and her husband is a well-paid engineer). She's always telling me that "It's not that much" and goes on and on and on about how much better the experience is than renting a DVD to watch at home and that the $20 plus popcorn and drinks is worth it. I've flat-out told her, "Well, it is a lot of money to us, and we can't afford it regularly because we have other expenses that come first." Unfortunately, it doesn't stop her. I hate it when people act like they know more about my financial or time commitments than I do.
ETA: At a certain point, I think that you (and by you I mean me and people in general) need to stop being so nice to people who are rude to us. Sort of like my MIL. She gets away with her nonsense because SHE is rude but knows that OTHER people will still play by the rules. That's what allows her to break the rules with impunity-- other people absorb the consequences of her actions. After a while, when you realize that this is standard procedure for someone, I think you really have to stop being nice and polite and stop letting them get away with their behavior. Have you read the book Boundaries? It's a good one. It helped me understand when I'm being nice and when I'm just letting someone walk all over me.
You're right. I've been told I'm too nice before, and I know its because I hate confrontation. I work in a very small office (9 people total) so I hate to "rock the boat" so to speak. I haven't read that book, sounds like it would be good for me though.
I know I complain about work alot on here, and I'm really sorry you guys have to listen to me ramble lol. I just get so frustrated during the day I need to let it out somewhere. Thanks for listening and the advice! I really glad I found you girls!
we love you!!!!! stop being so nice
haha except to us of course.