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According to iVillage, about half of you would rather spend time cleaning than with your MIL!
[Poll]
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I voted clean.
I don't really like my MIL, and I like a clean house. Walla.
My MIL sounds very opposite of yours. I would rather clean.
I am so jealous.
The last time my MIL came to my house for dinner she burst into tears and ran out of my house while I was chopping vegetables for an appetizer while lasagna was baking in the oven and spent 20 minutes on my driveway saying "I didn't really want her there" and "she didn't know why".
After I talked her down from the proverbial ledge she climed out on, my floors weren't waxed, my toilet wasn't shiny and my rugs didn't have any vacuum marks.
Darn.
I had an awesome MIL. For the time I knew her- she was like a second, cooler, mom than my own. She helped me pick out my wedding dress. Told DH that if he divorced me- she'd get me in the divorce. Told me that I was the best thing that could have happened to DH. She adored me and I adored her- which was even better because DH was a mama's boy and we spent a lot of time with her.
Unfortunately she passed away shortly before our wedding. I'd give just about anything to have another visit with her.
Friends for 15 years. Married 8. TTC since January 2009
2010 Diagnosis: Anovulation and Severe MFI
2011 Treatment:
IVF w/ICSI #1 Antagonist: 2 blasts - c/p - BFN 04.22
FET #1: 1 blast/1 early blast - BFP 06.22 - m/c 06.30 @6w0d
07-11 RPL: MTHFR C677T Heterozygous & Slightly elevated ACLA IgM
FET #2: 1 morula - BFN: 9.02
January '12: IVF #2
Started BCP and Metformin (New!) 12-14 for stimming in January
Dum spiro, spero.
?SAIF/PAIF/PgAL/PAL always welcome?
Cleaning...because I have to do it anyway, and at least after the afternoon is done, I'd have a clean house I can relax in.
FWIW, my relationship with my MIL is strained but I can be cordial for an afternoon. I don't hate her.
74 books read in 2011
Wow!
LOL.
I picked clean, but really it depends on if it is 1:1 time, or we're hanging out with my DH and his family. If it's 1:1 absolutely I pick cleaning. The two of us have *nothing* in common other than we both love my DH. But with family around she's tolerable.
My motherinlaw sobbed hysterically and screamed HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME to my dh the day after we got married (meaning us getting married). Among many other things, she once put me out in the hallway to eat Xmas dinner alone at a tray table while she seated my dh and children and the rest of the family in the dining room.
I would really rather consume cleaning products than spend time with her.
I picked cleaning, but I should have done "special snowflake."
DH's mom passed away when he was young. I would LOVE to have had the opportunity to meet her and spend time with her.
DH's stepmom is what I guess would be considered my MIL. I would rather stick large pins in my eyes than spend time with that b*tch!
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