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Is this rude?
My friend had a baby in August. Before the baby was born I helped throw a shower with two other girls and ended up spending quite a bit of money between the shower itself and the gift. When she had the baby we brought another gift to the hospital and now a few months later, my same friend is having another shower and invited me. Would it be rude to go and not bring a gift? I just feel like I have already spent a lot of money and I was not expecting to even be invited to this shower.
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Re: Is this rude?
Nope. Especially if it is a friend, they will understand.
If guilt starts to get to you, pick something small up.
Tough call...I am not totally sure what to do in this area but I completely understand your reasoning and tend to agree with you a little bit. Is there any way you can politely decline the invitation? Or perhaps you could just give her a card and do up a coupon for a girls night out, or an evening of babysitting???
If it were me I'd probably figure out some way to not go, or just not get her anything, you have done a lot and I am sure she's appreciative, she probably wouldn't even notice if she didn't get something from you. I just did it with SIL and her son's baptism.
If the shower is to celebrate the same baby (as opposed to being preggers agin or a wedding shower), I would not bring another gift. It would be weird of her to expect another one from you.
Otherwise, if you feel inclined, I would bring something small. Now that you know the baby's name you could give or make a piggy bank, bib, rattle with baby's name or monogram painted on it.
I would say bring something, doesn't have to be big or expensive by any means! Even a fake bottle of champagne would do. Or a small little gift basket from bath&body just for the mamma.
If you don't decide to bring a gift I don't think its rude, I would just have a hard time not bringing anything. A nice mooshy friend card goes a long way also!