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are you paranoid?
there's a post on ML that brought up the matter of answering the door when you're home alone.
Several people NEVER open the door when they're home alone and I find this really strange.
What do you think?
Re: are you paranoid?
It depends. I always keep our door locked when I'm home alone. We have a lot of foot traffic on our street (on the way to the busline) and there have been some daytime breakins recently.
Our door is all window with a sheer, so I can see who is there. If it's not someone I think I know or isn't a kid or UPS guy or whatever, than no. I don't.
Over the last 4 years or so, there have been several robberies and even home invasions in our neighborhood, and I still open the door. I just try to use my best judgement about letting people in the house. And I wouldn't open if someone matching the description of the suspects shows up on my doorstep.
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I think it's silly to never answer your door. If someone is going to bust in they're going to do it regardless of if you come to the door or not. I don't see a burgler going "Ok, we're going to knock on the door. If they answer, we'll overpower her and take the loot. If not, we'll go home and play xbox."
Just check, if you feel uncomfortable that's one thing but to not answer it just because you're always scared is silly.
While I agree they will come in either way, the home invasions around here have been exactly like that. I, for one, would rather hide upstairs while calling 911 while they bust in than answer the door and have them beat me to a pulp and tie me up while they rob my house.
That being said, I still answer the door unless they meet the suspects description and my instincts tell me not to.
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I don't think I've ever not answered the door because I was scared. Because I was in the tub or on a ladder, yes. We live in a very safe neighborhood. The only crime in the past 5 years has been a fist fight between two neighbors and a purse stolen out of an unlocked car. I do lock the doors when I'm alone.
I've been told I'm not paranoid enough before. Or careful enough I guess.
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I open the door, unless I just don't want to be bothered. Mostly, I find it funny they seem to think their Hs are some magical forces against evil. Unless you married an ex-special forces dude, he's likely no more match against an intruder with a knife or gun than you are.
At our old house, I rarely answered the door because we didn't have anybody coming over unannounced so any knocks were just somebody trying to sell something. At our new place, we haven't had any solicitors (we put up a No Solicitors sign), so if there's a knock at the door it's usually a neighbor or the guys who used to live there (we still get some of the mail from their business, so we call them to let them know).
Whether I answer the door or not is not affected by whether my husband is home.
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When I was on mat leave I never answered it because that would have required putting a bra on.
Now if it is during the day I sometimes answer it. Sometimes I am just too lazy.
I generally don't answer my door.
I live in a neighborhood where there are lots of break-ins, and it's not uncommon for people to case houses. Even if I don't let someone into my house, if I open the door to them, it gives them the opportunity to look into my house and see what kind of goodies I have that they can come back and steal later.
If it's not people casing, then they're usually pushing bibles, or selling meat out of a freezer in the back of their pickup. I don't want to talk to those people either.
Friends call first, and the UPS guy knows to just leave the packages on the stoop.
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This is a valid reason! I hate having to wear a bra in the house.
I guess I can understand if you live in a bad neighborhood or one with break ins happening often. I don't so I just don't understand that.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
I don't typically answer the door unless I'm expecting someone, or I can plainly see the UPS or Cox Cable truck outside.
I live in a pretty safe area and I'm not really scared, I just don't like people in general. And in the year I've lived here, I think I've had like two knocks on the door when I've been home.
I always answer, but I'm thinking I should stop, because it's always OSPIIRG or Jehovah's Witnesses and fvck if I want to talk to them.
Ditto the bra thing.
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Our condo is apartment style, so we don't get too many people knocking on the door. We keep the door locked all the time, even though we live in a safe neighborhood and 80% of the people in our building are 65+.
I can understand why some people are more likely to answer when their husbands are home. I do think that if a thief or a rapey stalker saw a man around, they would be at least slightly less likely to try something than if it was a woman who appeared to be by herself.
I don't have fear of attackers, I just don't want to talk to the Mormons (there's a church down the street from us and they are lazy evangelizers, apparently) or the kids selling fatty/nasty food (I bought three pizzas two weeks ago -- the kid was wearing his uniform, COMMON, that's not fair).
I don't really even lock our front door religiously. If someone wants in, they'll get in. Plus I live in the candy ass suburbs. My neighbor went out of town for a week and left his garage door open, with the door to the house unlocked. No one went in (except me, who finally went to investigate the open garage and then closed it and ran out, but that was after like six full days of sitting open).
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I pretty much always answer the door, but that's because the only people who ever knock are the UPS guy or the mailman, and the UPS guy won't leave anything without someone signing for it (or at least signing one of those yellow slips they leave if they missed you). The walkway to our apartment goes around our balcony, so if I happen to see someone that looks like they're selling something or wants to proselytize to me I ignore.
I always lock the door. There was a violent rape a few buildings down from me a couple years ago. The woman was really badly injured, and she didn't know the attacker. It really freaked me out. I didn't always lock the door before that, but I do now.
Answering my door usually costs me money in some way because I'm terrible at saying no so I avoid it at all costs. Someone is ALWAYS trying to sell something here. Also there are some kids in our neighborhood that still want to come in and hang out, even after I tell them my stepsons aren't home. It's just weird.
I answer the door most of the time but if it was a night Bob was at work and I felt uneasy, I'd ignore it. Or if they drive a serial killer van, then of course I'm not answering the door.
I usually get suspicious or paranoid, after I've already opened the door, talked to them and they've walked away. Like the time someone was trying to give us a quote on new windows or siding or whatever and his female partner sidled up out of nowhere. I closed the door and thought "Where did she come from? Does Sears or whatever company it was actually do that sort of thing? Maybe I should skip Criminal Minds tonight."
Do I look paranoid? Why are you asking? Is there something I should know?
I don't answer my door. Ever. But I've had two houses broken in to and was home when the guy came back once.
I always answer the door. The PSE&G guy is hot. He comes here every 21 days. It's the little things in life.
It's usually high school football boys too selling some kind of fundraising coupon card you can use in local stores. Who doesn't like coupons?
I'm just not fond of answering for the boy scouts. They sell popcorn and I don't want it. But, once I've answered the door, I feel like it's my own fault so i have to just buy some.