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wwyd/deleting old pictures
Since it's been slow around here lately...
I got a new camera last week so have been going through my old memory cards. There are a bunch of old pictures of my ex husband and of activities we did together. I can't decide if I should delete them entirely or just store them on my computer somewhere. It's not like I'll be gazing at them longingly all the time or anything, but it IS all stuff that happened so I feel weird just pretending it didn't.
What would you do?
Re: wwyd/deleting old pictures
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You know, as much as I acknowledge it would be difficult, I would probably encourage myself to delete it all. I'm a big believer in how your "stuff" impacts you. Physical clutter for me is mental clutter....and negative stuff (like reminders of old dysfunctional relationships) equals negativity in my mind. I think I would feel really good about letting it all go.
Agree.
I would be on board with this idea if it didn't mean I'd have to look through all of them or even call something a favorite.
In all likelihood, she'll never look at them again but I can totally understand not wanting to get rid of them. That box I mentioned is in the back corner of the shed and I only look at it when we're moving.
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Ditto.
There are things I threw away from my first/last serious ex before H. There were good times and obviously bad times, but I wish I would have kept some of the good things. It shaped me into who I am today.
Hmmm I'm leaning toward just dropping it in a folder on my hard drive, but I'm intrigued by this mentality.
I know it sounds dumb and hippy dippy. But I am learning by experience on it. Example: even though I always pay my bills on time and have nothing to stress about, when I see piles of paid bills and mail stacked up on my kitchen counter, it stresses me out. Going paperless with my bills helps. Another example: no schoolwork, bills, mail, or computers in my bedroom. Only positive, relaxing things like my favorite magazines, books, candles, etc. It is a room for relaxation and rest only.
I think we have a natural inclination to hold onto our "stuff" because we think it has more value than it does. But for me anyway, the more intentional I am about the stuff I surround myself with, the more I can focus on things that matter....the good things.
This is what I'd do, too.
I got rid of most of the pics of my ex and I. I did decide to keep a few, because they were more momentos of my life at that time. For instance, I went to Europe with him, and I didn't want to get rid of all those pics. Also, I kept some of special times for me, like our highschool prom photos etc. I was also with my ex for a long time, and I didn't want to delete my history.
Wedding photos and such though are all gone except for a couple that were taken of my girlfriends or family during the rehearsal. If someone wasn't there, they wouldn't know what the "event" was, and I dont' have many pics of all my friends and family together enjoying dinner etc.