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MIL/ Pro Pics Issues
A few weeks ago, my MIL was asking which pictures we are getting from the the photog, because she is adamant that they cost too much and she wants to take ours and make copies of them on her scanner so she doesn't have to pay for them. With our photog contract, we didn't get a cd to print our own pics, but the prices are very reasonable, IMO. My MIL is definitely well-off and would have no problem buying a handful of photos that are $4 for a 4x6, and $20 for an 8x10.She spends so much money on herself it's not even funny.
Hubby just wants to give her our photos after we order them to make copies so that she'll shut up about the issue. I really do not want to give her the photos because #1. it's stealing and we signed a contract that we would not do it , #2 everyone else has to pay for the photos, including us and my parents, and #3 I really can't stand how friggen cheap MIL is, and just about every other quality about her. I really don't want our first fight as a married couple to be over his selfish mother, but it looks like this issue isn't going away. GRRR. I'm thinking about taking the passive aggressive route on the issue and "forgetting" to bring the photos to her house the one- two times a year we go there. WWDYT?
Re: MIL/ Pro Pics Issues
I would stand my ground on this. Regardless of your issues with your MIL, and you feeling like she's being cheap, it's illegal. It really sucks that your husband doesn't agree - try to sit down with him and explain to him that you did sign a contract, it's illegal, and it's unfair to everyone else who has to pay for pictures. You really need to have him on your side for this, so that you can present a united front.
On the other hand, most parents don't pay for pictures. Have you considered putting a photobook together (for both sets of parents) and giving it as a gift? You could even do it for Christmas. Then, if your MIL wants any additional photos, she can pay for them.
ugh, this would bother me too, and i would likely do the passive aggresive thing.
Side note: your photos are SO cheap! Ours are $20 for a 5x7!!
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That is annoying. And cheap. And really, who would want to scan something like their child's wedding photos?? Most scanners - as nice as they are - don't produce very high quality images. Then she has a bunch of half-azz pics of your wedding on display. Classy.
I'm with the other girls on this one - it's illegal and unfair to everyone else. Stand your ground, and try to get H on the same page as you. He needs to have your back.
Well, I would get her a normal album (you know, family pics, pics of the ceremony, etc) plus a pic of her with her son, even if that's not that she wants. If she's not happy with it, she can buy her own. I doubt she will ask for just the pictures of herself to scan, because she won't want to admit she's that self-centered. And if she does, you can say, "Well, I'm sorry, but we signed a contract and it's illegal to do that."
I'm sorry you have to deal with this, it's really a pain, but I wouldn't give in on this.
Edit the framed pics would be fine, too. I would pic one of the IL's with you and your husband, and one of the ceremony or your first dance or something.
I'm planning on doing the same thing for my/his parents and g'parents: a scrapbook (large for parents, smaller for g'parents) of wedding photos and two or three framed photos.
We will be getting a CD (when we actually get our photos!) so I'll just print them out at walmart or cvs for cheap.
I know Wal-mart and all are cheaper but totally look into mpix.com and get your pictures there. They're just a little pricier but the quality is 10x better!
mpix.com has pretty good prices to get them printed on professional paper. For our 1200+ photos it would be 6k and up if we had our photog print them, with mpix.com its only a little over $300.