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Update to MIL's surprise visit (very long)
She arrived in FL sometime midmorning on Friday and drove to St. Pete (where we got married about an hour and a half from our house) to meet with a realtor. She spent the day looking a beach houses to buy and informed us that she plans on moving here. The day she moves here will be the day we leave!
I guess I should also add that the 18 hour drive took her nearly 30 hours because she got lost a few times and pulled over by 3 state troopers because she fell asleep at the wheel. She had been driving for 24 hours straight drinking red bull and mt. dew! I didn't dare to ask if she stopped for bathroom breaks.
After about 20 minutes lost in our neighborhood Aaron finally tells her to stop and he had to go find her. She got to our house at 8:00. Brock goes to bed at 8:30 so she had about 30 minutes with him. He did not have his bath, she fed him and insisted on putting him down. I knew he wouldn't sleep long because his routine was messed up but I went with it.
After Brock went to bed we ate dinner. It was like 9:00 at this time and I'm hungry and tired! She told us that someone proposed to her but she declined because he has 2 kids (10 and 7). 
We kind of brush it off and moved on. Aaron went outside and she tells me that she met this guy when she was trading in her car. He was the finance manager at the dealership where she has been playing hot wheels for the past year and is 29 years old. Aaron is 25. She goes on to tell me that he texts her all the time telling her how much he loves her and wants to marry her (this was the proposal) she keeps talking about what a great guy he is and then says how she has never gone on a date with him! I told her he's trying to take advantage of her, that this guy sounds like a creep and is after her money. She insists that I'm wrong.
She then brings up how she feels like Aaron doesn't love her. So this conversation gets more and more heated as he tries to explain to her all of the reasons he is mad at her. Walking in on her having sex with some man that is not his Dad ending in the divorce of his parents, telling people at the church he grew up at that he beat her and asked if that?s how dad did it, telling those same people that she bought my engagement ring all being outrageous lies by the way, getting phone calls from people he knew in high school saying that his mom was at a party they were at and she was wasted, losing $23K in the last year trading in cars because she's that stupid and vulnerable. She denied that most of this ever happened. She kept saying that since the car accident she was over prescribed to main meds and became addicted and only 1/3 of her brain is functional. I knew about the pain meds but if she really only has 1/3 brain functionality she needs to be on the thing Brittney Spears is on where she doesn't have control of her money. She needs someone to make decisions like buying houses and cars for her. This all got out of control and she started yelling eventually waking Brock up. I was so pissed! She tried getting him back down and he was just getting more and more worked up because she didn?t want to just give him to me. He wouldn?t go back to sleep so I ended up sleeping with him so I got a terrible night sleep.
It finally ended with her in tears when he told her if she wants to save their relationship she needs to get help. She has agreed to do this at least 3 times now so we will see what happens. She was there for 3 ? hours and went back home.
We did get the ridiculous train set. Yet another thing she wasted money on. My entire house smells like 1963. I can?t wait to get rid of these damn things!
On a lighter note? We took Brock to the pumpkin patch and had an awesome family day. He ?rode? a pony, a train, pet some farm animals and picked pumpkins. We?re so excited for his 1st Halloween!
Re: Update to MIL's surprise visit (very long)
Dude. That's crazy. So...she only stayed for 3 1/2 hours [even though it took her 30 hours to get there], then she left?!?!
It sounds like you guys had a rough weekend, but I'm glad it ended on a good note with the pumpkin patch visit. I'm hoping your MIL gets help so that "surprise" visits like this can become a thing of the past.
I'm sorry about the crappy visit, she really sounds BSC, I'm glad she went home after 3 1/2 hours.
But at least you had fun pumpkin picking with Brock.
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WOW! is all I can say about you MIL. hah
Glad y'all ended up getting to have some nice family time though!
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I feel so sorry for him. She was a great mother. I think everything started going downhill when his dad started making more and more money. She came from nothing and he gave her everything. When they got divorced she got alimony based on what his dad?s salary was at that time (he was the VP of a major company) and is still being paid. So I think the money went to her head. She could buy anything she wanted and thought that meant she could do anything she wanted. It just got a lot worse after the accident. She got a huge settlment, so even more money and then there is the pain pills. When I 1st met her she was a woman that I looked up to. She was the type of mother I wanted to be. It's really sad for Aaron that he lost her.
That is really sad. I hope she will get help.
Ditto, how sad that you and Aaron have to deal with this, especially now when you're starting your family and want their grandmother to be a part of their lives!
Yes, that is very unfortunate and very sad!
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Haha. I'm in for ice cream and a MIL vent session anytime!
Awesome! DH is going to China the first 2 weeks in November, so you and Brock should come over and we can vent about our MILs and have girl time without the men around to hear us
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