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I am so mad...
I was always the person on group projects in college who put in the extra effort to account for the other people who didn't pull their weight. I only had a big problem once or twice.
I am working with someone now who just did something similar. I am so mad. I gave him everything he needed. He waited until the last minute with a major deadline that couldn't be extended and then threw it all back on me. Luckily, my boss is awesome and is going to help get everything done. I was worried a month ago that this was going to happen.
Has this happened to you at work?
Re: I am so mad...
Ugh! That sucks. I'm pretty lucky in that most of our work is independent (as in success or failure is all on me) but my colleagues are really good about dividing up projects. We're required to serve on so many committees in order to get tenure. BUT, there's no rule about having to put in a certain amount of work for each committee you serve on. So, for example, Tom and I will both agree to serve on the curriculum committee and the assessment committee. They require about the same amount of work, so we'll decide that he'll do all of the work for one and just consult me when need be or before submitting a final report, and I'll do all of the work for the other and just consult him when need be or before submitting a final report. We're a fairly small department, though, so I think that helps.
This happened to me just today in fact. I left work SO frustrated. Coworker has not made this project a priority for the last three years and it's continually behind because of it. I have no way to MAKE him do his part and we've already extended the deadline.
Today he says he wants to push off the next and final trip (where we were supposed to finalize and deliver the product) until a date that I can't go. I'm afraid of what won't get done or what will be done in a sloppy way if I don't go. Now he says he won't be ready to go next week, so I am kind of backed into a corner. I'm the project manager on this task, but I have no pull to make things happen. In the past, I've tried to get management help on this, but then the guy says he's got it all under control so our boss changes nothing and we miss yet another deadline.
I DEFINITELY feel your pain!
I'm kind of irrationally PISSED right now, too. I'm currently at work. A student has been here for a couple of hours working on an assignment that's due tomorrow. I helped him find relevant articles and helped clarify some citation questions he had. He asked me a question that was essentially asking me to analyze the articles. I did a bit, but then he was pretty much asking me to write his paper for him. NOPE. Sorry, not gonna. I will show you how to find resources, and help you find resources, but putting them together for an assignment is up to you. I told him this...
THEN, he went up to my co-worker, who isn't (and I KNOW this sounds petty and snobby) a librarian and came back with lists of notes. So, I'm also pissed at my co-worker for doing what I told the kid we couldn't do.
We aren't here to do your assignments for you, people.
ETA: What my co-worker told him to say was crap. Yeah, I'm still just annoyed and pissy.
This reminds me that in college they had a policy so that each group project contained 4 people: 1 high GPA, 2 medium GPAs, and 1 low GPA. What a crock of shiit. That just guarantees that one person gets to coast, always, while another person who works their ass off always gets screwed with at least one partner who didn't care about their grades and didn't do anything.
That policy was the second dumbest policy they had in the Electrical Engineering department. The dumbest by far: any group with one girl in it had to include at least one more girl so that she didn't feel outnumbered. Apparently they didn't realize that we'd be outnumbered at least 15 to 1 in industry. Guess what, I don't have a girl buddy in all of my projects now, so that really wasn't all that helpful.
There was a project I worked on in a management class in college, and one of the guys in my group [who was a football player but NEVER PLAYED, although he acted like he did] didn't pull his weight. So, when we did peer reviews, we gave him an honest review, which dropped his grade. Um, not my fault we gave you everything you needed and didn't do your part.
When our grades were posted, he started harassing me via text message, and he almost started to threaten me. If he'd kept going, I was going to file a restraining order and talk to my professor about it - but he apologized, and I haven't talked to him since. He was freaking nuts.
People dropping the ball happened a lot at my old job, but I totally won't get into that right now because that's just too much drama to rehash. It sucks...I don't get why it's so hard for people to be responsible. It's not hard.
That seems like such a bad policy. We usually formed our own groups and I knew people I could work with. Once I was assigned someone from another country who couldn't stand that I was a woman. He would ignore any suggestion I made and said several very rude comments to me.
I got a C on a project once because of a slacker who said he would finalize the document and turned in garabage. I went to the professor since it brought my grade down to a B and he allowed me and others to rewrite the paper. We found out our grade at the final and we rewrote it the following week.
When I told my boss about this, I shut the door and started laughing because of how absurd this was. At first he thought I was bawling.