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Alishanyc
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In Laws
Since its quiet, I thought Id start a couple of threads to get the convo going!
In my Holiday thread, I brought up In-laws.
I do NOT get along with my in-laws whatsoever. I loathe my husband's mother (she's the most loathsome, vile human being on the face of the earth. Trust me) - I used to try so hard to make progress with her and his siblings but I have given up. They are hateful people. That is, with the exception of his brother who I ADORE. Actually, his brother was his best man at our wedding, and I cook a big dinner every Sunday and he comes most every Sunday.
Whats your relationship with your In-Laws like?
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(here is the root of the root and the bud of the bud
and the sky of the sky of a tree called life; which grows
higher than the soul can hope or mind can hide)
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I carry your heart(I carry it in my heart)
Re: In Laws
I started off having a great relationship with them, but about a month before the wedding they began to be really rude and mean to me. It all began because of the seating chart haha. They also have a problem wtih me because I am not a born again christian (I am catholic.)
I've tried hard to have a relationship wtih them, but stopped trying this summer when they continued to be intrusive and rude towards me. My husband and I do not communicate with them often. They did call awhile ago inviting my husband to thanksgiving at there house. Just my husband, not me. Needless to say, that was a whole nother conversation haha.
It's sad, I was really hoping to have great in laws.
How odd, I started out really well with the inlaws as well, and then craziness and pettiness ensued.
Your inlaws sound EXACTLY like mine - they invite my husband to stuff WITHOUT me. He wont go though, and so our dealings with them are little to none.
Really sad though. There is nothing worse than having a horrible relationship with your inlaws.
I'm really lucky to have great ILs. They live just a short (like 5 mins) drive from us and we go there for dinner every Sunday. We'll also drop by occasionally at other times and they (usually my FIL) will stop by here during the week.
My MIL just started chemo for the 3rd time in her fight against cancer, so we spend more time with them now than before.
My DHs fmaily still all live in DR. We had a good time there. I've only met her once, she is the matriarch of the family as his dad wasn't really in his life. She was a little bossy in her house, but most of the time to her family to make sure I was having a good time on my visit.
I think it will be different when she comes to visit here, because she won't be giving orders in my house. Still, I want her to feel comfortable when she visits as it would be her first time out of DR.
My mom is the the one with issues. She is so anxious about medical stuff as she has a lot of medical problems. She likes to find medical issues in other. So I was hoping to tell he I'm pregnant after I have the baby.
I feel so blessed when I read posts like this, hear some friends talk about their IL's. I really love my in-laws. MIL and FIL are good people, BIL's okay too. I think we all get along really well. Occasionally, they can do something that irritates me (like plan trips to visit without exactly consulting first) but they are also the type that I can say what bothered me and they are very respectful of my feelings. I know they love me and have told me many times that I am the daughter they never had.
And actually most of H's extended family is really cool too (huge family, huuuge). I am quite close with some of his cousins and aunts/uncles. It doesn't hurt that H and I have known each for a long time.
my ILs are divorced (as are my own parents) so it's an interesting situation we have. FIL and his whole (humongous) family are amazing. he wasn't as much of a strong male figure for DH when he was growing up, but now they have an amazing relationship.
MIL means well enough, but damn is she a lunatic. she is riddled with medical issues, and is sooooooooooooo dependent on her sons, both physically and emotionally. it has taken him many years, but DH has finally learned how to draw firm boundaries while still maintaining a healthy relationship with her. now he is teaching his brother to do the same.
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I'm lucky that my in laws live in Texas. My DH has other family (cousins, aunts and uncles) that live in NJ and they are wonderful! We get along very very well with them, and are actually spending thanksgiving with them!
If I become and "in law" someday, I know a lot of what not to do at least:)
I am lucky too, my IL?s are really good people. MIL is a sweetheart and always says that I am the daughter she never had. She is a doll. We actually have to tell her to stop showering us with gifts; she loves to shop for us. FIL and I butt heads sometimes, but he is a good guy, very loyal. DH and his dad don?t get along that well, but they are getting better. His extended family is a big crazy bunch, but they are really good people.
I am sorry that you ladies are going through all of this. I hope it gets better. :-/
I love my in-laws, but they live in California so that might have something to do with it :-)
J/K, they are very nice, unobtrusive people - they don't interfere or meddle and are very content to let us have our own lives. So, even if we lived in the same state, I'm sure they wouldn't get on our nerves. Actually, the only thing that does sometimes bother me about them as that they are SO unobtrusive - I come from a typical Italian family where everyone is in everyone's business, and you eat dinner together every Sunday. The ILs are the complete opposite, so sometimes that translates to me like they don't care. I know that's not what it means, though, so I just have to keep reminding myself that it's just the way they are, and not a reflection on how much they care about their son and our family.