August 2006 Weddings
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NER: I just need some support right now....

Hi all,

I know it's ridiculous to do this on a message board, but FI's at work right now, i keep getting voicemails with my friends, and my mom is too much of a wreck right now, so....

I spoke with my mother yesterday as she was bawling in an airport in Seattle; apparenlty she's just gotten a call from her brother letting her know that their mother (my grandmother) has cancer.

Grandma wouldn't tell any of her kids anything more until they saw her in person, and when my mom saw her today, she told her that she has Stage IV cancer. The oncologist has given her a week, maybe two.

I'm kind of an emotional wreck right now. This is the woman who watched me while mom was off working during her single mom days; the woman I spent every summer with growing up; the woman I remarked about recently that, "I don't care if no one else from my family shows up; Grandma has to be there" in regards to our wedding. And now she's dying....in a week.

Sorry this is so long...I'm just really upset and needed to get it out. I wish FI was here.... :(

Re: NER: I just need some support right now....

  • Oh, I'm so, so sorry :(  WIll you be able to go see her?

    I will be thinking of you in the coming weeks and wishing you and your family much peace.  

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  • Oh Heather, I'm so so sorry--what awful news.

    I hope you'll be able to say your goodbyes to your grandmother.

    You're in my thoughts.

  • Wow, I'm soo sorry that you have to go through this. My grandmother died when I was 9 and it still upsets me. I wish I had had the chance to know her when I was old enough to ask her real questions about herself and fully understand what was going on enough to really say goodbye.

    Will you be able to see her? Take whatever chance you get to tell her how much you love her and how important she has been to you. It's so hard to imagine someone so monumental in your life not being around. Ugh. I really feel for you. You'll be in my thoughts!!

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  • I am so sorry to hear that! ?That's horrible news. ?I hope you're able to see your grandmother again, and I will be thinking about you and your family.
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  • I'm sorry, that's so sad and sudden :(Left HughugsRight Hug

    I have a grandma like that. Even though she makes me angry over certain things, I still feel really connected to her because of the time we spent together when I was growing up. Same here - she watched me while my mom was working, took me to work with her, spent summers together. I can only imagine how upsetting it must be to face losing your grandma so soon :(

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    You will be in my thoughts, too, It is so indescribably hard to lose someone you love.

  • Oh no, I am so very sorry. My thoughts are with you and your family.?
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  • I'm so sorry. Left HugRight Hug for you.

    My grandpa died of cancer somewhat unexpectedly about a month ago, so if you ever want to talk, please know I'm here for you.

  • Oh, I'm so, so sorry. Will you be able to see her? I will keep her, and you, in my thoughts.
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  • ((((HUGS))))

    My deepest sympathies go out to you. 

  • Thanks everyone.

    I'm trying to take deep, calming breaths right now, and trying to distract myself.

    I can't get a flight out until midweek, but then I'll probably fly out to spend a few days with her before.... 

    Thanks again for your sympathies, though.

     

     

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  • I am so sorry to heart that.

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  • I'm so sorry. :( I hope you'll be able to spend some time with her this week. *hugs*
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  • I'm so sorry! I hope you are able to see your grandmother before she dies, but I am sure that no matter what, she knows how much you love her. She sounds like an awesome lady, and I wish you the best in this difficult time. Sending e-hugs your way.

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  • I am so, so sorry. Big hugs to you and your family. 
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  • I am sorry to hear this. Please know my thoughts & prayers are with you & your family.
  • I'm so sorry.  I'll be praying for you and your family.

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  • It is hard to let go of the ones you love.

    I hope you will tell her how much you love her and what an impact she has had on your life.  Share special memories of times together and do what you can to make these last days special.  Spend time with her now, even if it means you must miss the funeral.   If you can't go and be with her - call each day.

  • I am so sorry to hear you and your family have to go through this. Like you, my grandmother was the woman who helped my mother during her "single mom" days...it does help create an incredible closeness.

    Your family will be in my thoughts and I hope you're able to spend some time with her in the coming days.

    Hugs!

  • I'm so sorry to read this.  (((hrparker)))
  • Oh I am so sorry.  You'll be in my thoughts.  ::hugs::
  • I'm so sorry, dear.  You and your family will be in my thoughts.

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  • That is really sad and I am so sorry.  Have you spoken to your grandmother or will you be able to visit her?

     You and your family will be in my thoughts.


     

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