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How to locate an adult biological child?
Kinda FM related but I was wondering if anyone has information about how to begin looking for an adult biological child. My aunt recently decided that she wanted to find her daughter that she gave up 27 years ago but the records are sealed and she only has the birth date and the hospital location so not much information at all. She's not sure where to start the search. Does anyone have any suggestions? Is it impossible to find someone with that little information? TIA!
Re: How to locate an adult biological child?
PI is the most efficient way to do this with so little to go on.
Facebook is great if you have more.
Was there an adoption agency involved? If there was, generally they will take a letter from either party (bio child or parent) stating that they are willing to have their contact information shared if the other party contacts them. Of course, if the bio daughter doesn't it goes nowhere but it is something to try.
Then there are numerous websites and registries, as Suesue mentioned, that are places for people looking to post. They are a long shot but they do work sometimes. One of the biggest is www.isrr.net.
Also, I went to court (I was adopted at birth) and tried to get the record unsealed. They would not do it but they did have a court-appointed detective and they said that I could speak with him and he would give me any non-identifying information that he could uncover. He was great.
Other than that, I would say that a private detective would be the best route. But a lot of them, IMO, charge a lot of money and don't do much. The court-appointed guy I had was great.
She could contact the county where she had the baby and see if they can help her. She may also want to contact an attorney who specializes in family law/adoptions and see if they can help her.
Just to play devil's advocate - does your aunt know that this girl WANTS to be found? It can be seriously detrimental to be found by your biological parents if you have no desire to talk to them.
Are you 100% sure this individual knows she was adopted?
It's not all that difficult for children to find their biological parents through the courts, agencies, etc. and you are able to do that at age 18. If this girl wanted to be found, she probably would have started the process by now.
ETA: I was adopted as an infant and found both of my birth parents.
I'm sure she's thought about that but from what she's been told from the courts and a PI Utah is notoriously difficult when it comes to closed adoptions, that includes the adopted child trying to find their biological parent. So I think she's just going to give it a shot.
Thanks Sue-Sue, I'll give her this other information. I gave her the websites that people suggested and I think she's already registered on one.
I was adopted as an infant and have found both of my birth parents. I found my mother through the adoption agency, (most have search options available), but I found my father through Search Quest America. They are the search services affiliated with the TV show "Troy the Locator". And no, using them does not put you on the TV show......but I trusted them because they are a company that has been around a while and they are very reputable. It's not cheap....but they found my birth father with VERY little info in just under 4 months!! Good luck.
www.searchquestamerica.com