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Babyshower- tell me what you think.
A distant cousin of mine is pregnant with her 3rd baby. Her 3rd girl. He oldest is 5, her middle one is 12 hours younger than Camden (C was a few hours old & I saw her come walking in to also give birth, we're a small area LOL) so she's 2 1/2. The other day I get a FB event invite to her babyshower. She's throwing her own baby shower at her house, for her 3rd child, 3rd girl.
Seriously it doesnt get any worse than that etiquette wise. Im not sure Ill go, we've only become friendly since we've had the 2 1/2 year olds so I've never been to any of her other showers so I dont know if that makes a difference.
I feel like I should add, around here we usually do showers for the 1st & a sprinkle for the 2nd if its opposite sex. I had a full blown one for B & a sprinkle because C was a boy. Its not unheard of around here to have more than one.
Now its time for your opinions.
Re: Babyshower- tell me what you think.
I'm with you. Sounds like she just wants a bunch of new things for the baby. I didn't think you had showers except for your first one or if the second one was going to be the opposite sex.
All the showers I have been to have been for the first born child only.
This is how it is E wise. I think what makes it different around here is that we're such a small area most everyone I know lives very close to their whole families. I think because of that people get more than one.
I live within a 15 mile radius of my whole family except an uncle. Grandmothers, aunts & uncles, brother, my parents, J's parents, his brother.
So maybe its the families, loving on babies that keep up the showers.
I can say that when we someday have a 3rd we will not do a shower/sprinkle. I've had a boy & a girl & even though this would be J's 1st baby biologically I still wouldnt want one I was smart & saved clothes from both of them. Id wait & do a welcome baby party with no presents involved just so everyone could have some snuggle time.
I have only heard of showers for the first born or if they kids are really far apart in age.
This might be a stupid question, but what is a sprinkle? I have never heard that term ever. Just a small baby shower?
Yep, its just closest family & friends. My shower for Brianna I had 60 people & I opened presents for 2 solid hours. Camden I only had like 20 people & it was more clothes than anything because I got all of my gear in neutral colors when I was pregnant with B because I knew I would have more children.
I understand what you mean about multiple baby showers if they are uncommon in your town. It is a new baby and new things are always good to have.
Good Luck with making your decision on attending.
I've heard of people having multiple showers for multiple pregnancies but I think they are in bad taste. I can understand have a LARGE elaborate one for your first and then perhaps a smaller one for a second pregnancy, especially if it's a different gender.
I would be a little more understanding of her having a third shower if someone else was throwing it for her but I don't like that she's doing it herself.
If you do decide to go, maybe you could give them something small or just a card with a note saying you would love to bring them dinner some time after their baby is born. That or some condoms.
Geesh, girl. You are clearly way more popular than me! I guess I will only be having "sprinkles" when I get around to having kids.
Not popular at all, only a few friends were there, I have a really big family that loves babys & cute baby things.