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Information Please re: Clumsiness and Alcoholism
Hi! I usually post on Entertaining Ideas board... however sadly I have some real concerns re: my Mother's drinking.
Does anyone know (besides the fact that she drinks every day) if clumsiness during the day is also a sign of alcoholism? My father just seems to blame her "accidents" on clumsiness - and I would like for him (and myself) to better understand this.
Any information you have would be appreciated. Without going in to a lot of details my sister and I are distancing her from our lives anyways.
TIA
Re: Information Please re: Clumsiness and Alcoholism
There is a good chance the clumsiness is due to the booze and it sounds like your father is enabling her drinking. If you believe it is an issue, you should seek assistance for an intervention.
Good luck.
She could be hiding booze in the house -- I second AlAnon.
My MIL was an alcoholic. She passed away from liver failure last year at 58. When she was drinking, she was very clumsy, so I would definitely be suspicious of your mom.
Denial is a huge part of the disease of addiction---both for the alcoholic and possibly for your dad. Asking her to change her behavior could change the relationship between your parents, which might be scary for your dad.
Anyway, I agree with pp's that you should check into Al-Anon.
(If you want to read a little bit about the poor way my FIL handled my MIL's drinking, you can read about it on my blog: http://bit.ly/bzZnK7)
What kind of "accidents"?
Did she accidentally set the house on fire or accidentally trip down a flight of stairs or accidentally fall alseep on the couch a few times?
Any worry of Alzheimer's or Parkinson's disease?
... and you can't make him understand (anything), only yourself.
Well, the alcohol certainly doesn't help. Even when you are sober, your body is effected by the alcohol (recovering, getting it out of your system). Alcohol, esp continued use, takes a real toll on the body.
The bigger question, why are you wondering? It sounds like you are looking for support for the belief that she is alcoholic?? I know how hard it is to come to terms with (my aunt was alcoholic). The thing is that alcoholism isn't about how much one drinks, or even how often, but about addiction and not being able to cope without it. Letting it interfere with relationships and ones life.
Reach out to others who are in a similar position and get yourself a lot of response. Alanon is a great resource. It is time to get yourself the support and guidance you need.
Big hugs and best of luck.
Lighthouse State Beach, Santa Cruz.
my step-father was an alcoholic and I say was because he has passed away from drinking. If your mother is becoming clumsly it is because she is drunk. My father drank every day also even after being told by doctors to stop drinking. Have you tried sitting down with you mother and talking with her about it and find out why she is drinking so heavy to being with. There is a reason behind all the drinking. We used to find hidden bottles of alcohol through out the house. It's something that you need to sit down and talk with your parnets about. Maybe you and your father should talk first and see if you both are on the same page and then have a conversation with her together. Good luck.