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Ever had to learn to say NO!
Man, I feel like lately everyone is consuming so much of my time! I have 2 friends in the same grad school program as I am and it's wonderful to be able to partners for things and ask questions to one another but both of them can be very needy at times. Right now, it's both of them and I've gotten to the point I won't answer my phone and don't always call back because honestly...I don't have the time or energy to contribute. I have my calendar - I stick to it. If I don't, I get behind and stressed.
My calendar is my life and the ONLY way I survive right now. I don't have time to scan things for anyone else because I have a scanner or listen to venting. I start tutoring with my students next week. School is intense right now as I'm going through some litigation (long story - no, I'm not in trouble - I'm just fighting for one of my kids). So, between lawyers, administrators, turd professors, needy classmates, homework, lesson plans, scentsy orders and who knows what else I can't even think of right now.......I'm just tired!
So, I've had to learn to say no. No, I will not scan your stuff. No, I will not modify your worksheets for your sped students. No, I will not replace your warmer because you dropped it. No, I will not commit to most anything right now. NO
Man, that feels good. All together now....NO!
Ok, you may back away from my whiny post and resume your normally scheduled lives 
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Re: Ever had to learn to say NO!
OMG, YES! When I was in law school, I joined every club that sounded interesting, took every class I could fit in my schedule, and then still said "yes" to every party and offer to hang out.
I stressed myself to the limit and found that it was only when I started dropping out of some of the clubs and canceling my attendance at some of the parties that I was able to breathe again.
It was a hard lesson for me - I'm a joiner - but I learned it. Sort of... here I am trying to run & build 3 businesss while taking on Membership VP at the theater, watching my nephew every week, and still hanging out and doing everything else. So I *sort of* have learned. It's a hard thing to shake this way of being. Glad you're starting to do it!
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Yeah, I tend to over commit too because I like to help people. So, I offer to do a lot and then when I start saying no to things, people are a little shocked. I just don't have enough time or energy right now.
I'm not stressed which is the odd thing - just overwhelmed. I think after May, I'll be good. Then I can volunteer for things again but for now - I have to be a recluse. The reason I did not do so well in my undergrad was because I was the opposite. I was way more interested in having friends and experiencing college (I went to a small private high school - 27 in my class). I kind of went crazy. So, now, I'm making up for it:)
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Ovarian drilling and endo removed 1/3/12
BFP - 3/27/12
Beta's 11, 14, 57, 637, 2800
Sono showed no baby and teeny tiny sac. Waiting to M/C naturally.
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