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Brazilian
How painful is it to get a brazilian wax?
DH loves me bare and hoenstly I like it that way too. I used to shave but with a full time job and an infant, it's impossible to keep up now.
It didn't matter for a while since we had no sex life anyway (issues post-birth) but now that we're getting back to normal - waxing seems to be the only way it's ever going to be possible to maintain. But I'm scared it'sll hurt too much.
Re: Brazilian
Well I'm not going to lie it hurts. However you've had a baby so it can't be as bad as that, I don't have kids myself yet.
Take aleve etc an hour before and if you can get the pain reducing spray it helps as well.
The first time is the worst because you will have the most hair, up keep helps, every 4-6 weeks. Also try and find a place that has the hard wax instead of the strip wax it hurts less as it does not stick to the skin.
Bio
If you leave a tiny strip down the middle it doesn't hurt as bad. And it will hurt a lot your first time, but after doing it regularlly it's fine.
I have to disagree with the hard wax. I'm living in Chile now and all I can find is the hard wax. I prefer and miss dearly soft wax applied with a stick and removed with a paper strip. After trying 15+ different people.. I know now whats good and whats bad.
It shouldn't take longer than maybe 6 minutes if she is good at it. So if it takes a long time with tons of strips and lots of wax over the same spot more than once, try someone else the next time.
Good luck
Have been getting this done for 10 years, its absolutely worth the discomfort, expense and cost in my opinion. I have never had a baby, so I figure if you can manage that, you'll be ok. I go nuts waiting for my appts now cause having hair down there drives me mad, i could never go back to shaving. Plus, you will feel incredibly sexy, its so silky.
Tips:
Pop two ibuprofen before your appt. RELAX, and don't forget to breathe, tensing hurts more. The first time will be the worst ever, you might get pinpoints of blood and a lot of inflammation. Your recovery might be a few days of sensitivity. If you keep it up every 4-6 weeks it just gets easier. The worst part is the top of the mons about an inch above your clitoris. Or like someone else said, you can leave that as landing strip... your preference.
Keep taking ibuprofen on a regular dosing schedule if needed, it keeps the swelling/discomfort down. Whatever you do, keep hands off for the rest of the day, and keep very clean. I usually lay low afterwards as a lot of exercise/rubbing/sweating is not a good thing. Your hair follicles are open to bacteria. If you are one of the lucky few without a lot of inflammation, this still means no sex on day 1. Once you are no longer sensitive, get a scrubby mitt and exfoliate regularly in the shower to prevent ingrown hairs.
If you feel that your esthetician wasn't great, keep looking. They should be interactive and holding different bits or asking you to help hold etc. Mine is super chatty/friendly and distracts me. LOL, you get used to the awkward naked positions
I think of it like seeing a medical professional.
I think that's about it. Good luck!
I am in agreement with pantaloon but I did not take the aleve.
You must find a good est. . . . That should be in bold lettering. I went to two and never found a good one. I used to try and go bare but they would always leave pieces of hair. It would hurt like a _____ in particular areas but in my mind as long as they were getting it off I would be okay with it all. But they didn't. My anti-inflammatory trick was that I was on a strict diet (before I got married. . . I was a cow when I got engaged!) of vegetables, fruits and lean organic meats. Simply no sugar, grains of any kind and no junk or processed foods. I think that helped because when I got off that roller coaster and went back to the bad food and got waxed, I was bleeding a little, had some bumpage and swollen. Good luck! You are inspiring me to go back and look for a new esth.
Sugaring.
I wish I had known about going almost bare years sooner too. I can't believe around the pool change room there are still today some scruffy muffy messes.
see now I heard sugaring isn't much less painful.
Anywho. Went to my first appt today and I had her wax the whole present lol. It was definitely painful, I completely forgot to pop some motrin so I went in pain killer free. I had her go ahead and remove what would be a landing strip. She said that the first few times you go it's best to just get it all gone and it really only takes another few seconds to get rid of it.
I'm still a tad sore but the swelling has gone a lot.
My esthetician told me not to take any ibuprofen before my appointments. It can thin out the skin and make it more prone to bruising and separating.
I definitely think it is worth the cost. I don't think it hurts that bad at all. It is slightly uncomfortable, but honestly, sometimes my wax is the most relaxing part of my day because I can just lay there for a few minutes.
Try No Scream Cream...it numbs the area and once bottle costs around $20, but it lasts FOREVER. You can find it on amazon for a great price.
Well, you're not going to stay hair free for the whole 8 weeks. Your hairs are all in different stages of growth, so while getting waxed will get most of the hair, you have to go regularly to catch the hairs at a stage that they can be caught by the wax. If you go every 8 weeks, you'll notice that the hair that does grow in is finer and less dense. You will have to shave the hair that grows between waxings, but over time it will be less and less.