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I just need to vent
about my sister. A few weeks ago she asked H and me if she could take V to a halloween party at her friend's sisters house (her friend's nephew is V's age). H and I told her at first that we weren't sure since H was going to be OOT so much we might want to spend some time with the kids together, but in the end we told her it was fine as long as she got my moms car (that has a carseat for V in it) so that we wouldn't be stuck at home with no car while they were gone because the carseats are a pain in the a$$ to install in my car.
Well, yesterday she remembered that because she has gotten into so many accidents, she can't drive my mom's car (the insurance excluded her from their policy). My mom said that if I would drop V off at the party, she would pick him up and bring him home, but my sister said that wasn't good enough.
Then she said she wanted to just take both kids to the party since it would just be an hour. H and I told her no since he hasn't seen M at all really in 2 weeks since he has been OOT and working late so M is alseep when he gets home.
It was this whole big thing with her basically telling me that she it is no big deal if she takes my kids for an hour or if V rides in her friend's car in that carseat. That carseat is forward facing and V is rear facing and I don't feel comfortable with him forward facing yet. In the end, my mom came to my house and dropped off her car so my sister's friend could drive it to the party with V in it and then take it back to my mom. They left at 1:30 and got home at 6 with an exhausted V (he is alseep now).
Basically she made me feel like a bad person for wanting my kids to be safe. And all this is the first time she has really said more than 2 words to me since M's birthday 3 months ago (since I wouldn't change the party so she could come). It is so frustrating trying to make everyone happy.
Re: I just need to vent
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Dude. I would've driven to the party and picked up JJ myself if they'd been there that long. One of my friends wanted JJ to come to a party this weekend, but H moves tomorrow - no way we were going anywhere.
Please don't let her make you feel like a bad parent - you're the mom, not your sister. You wanted to do what was best for your kids, and you wanted them to see their dad. No one should make you feel bad for that. I'm annoyed for you...I'm sorry you had to deal with that.