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s/o TOT Halloween vent
I'm getting bitter feelings towards handing out candy. There were a few
jr high looking kids that were texting or on the phone when they came up
for candy. Seriously? And the kids that wear an open backpack in the front and just walk up and stand there? Come on. The very least
kids can do is say "trick or treat."
I may not do anything next year, which makes me sad b/c I love Halloween. The majority of kids are not from our neighborhood, which I expect some, but not 75%. DH and dress up to pass out candy, and then some kids just walk around in everyday clothes expecting free stuff? Put forth a little effort!!
Also, it takes time and money to decorate a festive yard set-up, and some kids think it's okay to take stuff. No, I didn't get glow sticks to put in my yard to set a mood for some punk kid to take. DH caught 3 kids trying to take glow sticks. No, you can't have them, they're part of the decorations, and don't walk away complaining when you don't get one. Ugh, I don't know if I'll be up to the effort next time.
I may not do anything next year, which makes me sad b/c I love Halloween. The majority of kids are not from our neighborhood, which I expect some, but not 75%. DH and dress up to pass out candy, and then some kids just walk around in everyday clothes expecting free stuff? Put forth a little effort!!
Also, it takes time and money to decorate a festive yard set-up, and some kids think it's okay to take stuff. No, I didn't get glow sticks to put in my yard to set a mood for some punk kid to take. DH caught 3 kids trying to take glow sticks. No, you can't have them, they're part of the decorations, and don't walk away complaining when you don't get one. Ugh, I don't know if I'll be up to the effort next time.
Re: s/o TOT Halloween vent
Hahahaha! Priceless!
We had a few older kids come like that. Our rule is no costume, no treat. I've handed out candy to 5 kids, looked up and said..."Not you. Go away." to the one not dressed up.
Smoking...no treat. Talking on phone...no treat. Don't say "trick or treat." No treat! (Unless they're little and cute and can't say it.)
I really struggle with this. I do think that some kind of costume, and at least the words "trick or treat" or "thank you" should be said, but I also think that kids could be doing much worse things than walking around getting candy, so...
It was disappointing to see a surprising number of people who came up with no costume whatsoever though. And seriously, the people that push around an INFANT and then shove a TOT bag in my face... Either the parents are eating it (which makes them greedy for going out in the first place) or they really are feeding that crap to the babies (I saw this happen). Either way, that is not cool.
The fact that we ran out made me wish we had turned some people away.
If it was warmer I was going to go with a friend with older kids and take Ella, but I wasn't going to take a bag. I would have been in the neighborhood I grew up in so I know some people would have give me candy, but I would never expect people to give my 4 week old baby candy.
I have no problem whatsoever with the parents who pushed around a baby along with another child or something, and it's definitely no big deal if they didn't have a bag. I LOVE seeing cute babies!
I agree with everything that was said.
Last year B2 was only 8 months old. So I just took him to the neighbors, no bag. This year we practiced saying TOT. But again, I only took him to people we knew. He did say TOT , but he did say thank you.
When I went to my ILs, I sat out front with them and all the rude children. I even said to one kid "this is where you say thank you." He looked at me and said thank you. And my MIL just lauged. And the kids with the backpacks, my MIL thought was so smart. Which, I guess it was, but don't just come up and stand there. At least say TOT and Thank you.
This is the way I look at it. I am paying MONEY to buy you candy. All you have to do is put forth a little effort and walk around and come up and say TOT and thank you. Not that hard. How in the world are these kids ever going to get jobs and survive?
Completely agree. My adopted sister shoved around her kid in the stroller and put a bag in front of her to get the candy. The baby was Carly's age. 1. Carly can't eat most of the candy given out. So my adoptive sister was basically getting it for herself and her bf. You would think with 3 older kids (ages 3-7) she would get plenty and not be so greedy. It was pretty embarrasing and DH and I actually walked farther ahead of her. And its moments like this that I am glad I only see/talk to her 3 times a year.
I agree with everyone else about the older kids. I don't mind seeing older kids (like young teens) ToTing if they are dressed up and not being obnoxious.