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What if I invite all my family and friends to my wedding and not very many people show up?
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Be sure to have booze - then people will come.
Yeah, OP, there's like a million legit reasons for someone to be unable to attend a wedding. What are you getting at?
And I second Bun. Get enough booze for the reception and an after party. They'll come in droves.
you have a lot of leftover food is what happens.
Yes, in my experience, most people are polite enough to RSVP. You will have to track some people down, but not many. And we put the open bar information on our wedding website with the menu, directions, hotel options, etc., and slipped a piece of paper into the invitation packet letting them know there was more information online.
Okay, really? Go hang out on TheKnot for a while and learn about weddings.
1) Yes, people RSVP. And if they don't, you (or a family member) calls. Your Reception Hall (if you're doing a hall) will need a final count, in any case.
2) You can mention that there's an open bar in your invitation packet, or on a wedding website, if you make one... but only if you plan on doing a full open bar.
Thank you! That's my Pugsly.
My H & I put an email address and phone number for people to RSVP.
If no one shows up I guess they all hate you.
I had about half the people I invited show up (150 out of 300). June is a busy month and fills up fast so my feeling weren't hurt.
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Is this for real?
Do a little research on wedding planning, a wedding is not exactly a drop in if ya wanna come event. You give invites, you get rsvp's back...you kind of know who's coming before the actual wedding.
I hope the weddings not soon because I think you might have a lot of work to do.
Not sure how many people you will be inviting or how much they drink but $1K wouldn't have come close to covering the tab from the open bar at our wedding.
Most people are considerate enough to RSVP to a wedding, however, you will have some that will not. You and your future DH and/or parents, whomever, will have to call those you have not yet heard from and get their direct yes or no. Prepare yourself though, as people who tell you no will tend to show up and people who say yes will not show. Luckily, this didn't happen to DH and I, but it happens.
As for the open bar vs. cash bar issue. Umm...call me presumptious but unless said otherwise, I attend a wedding assuming that it's an open (paid for) bar. I have never been invited to a wedding where it was a cash bar. I guess include something in your invitation stating that food and soft drinks will be served and alcoholic beverages are on the guest? Otherwise, no, I would not make mention of an open bar - that seems tacky like a frat party or something, "Beers on us!".
I can see if the reception is at a venue that allows you to bring in your own liquor. 1k can buy a lot of liquor. BUT, if the reception site charges you by the guest, then no, 1k will barely buy people a shot.
And living in a cave?
On the reception card we invited people for "Dinner, drinks and dancing," which I think is another way to convey "open bar." But, seriously, OP, get thee over to the Knot and learn about weddings.
Amen.
To the OP - People are going to come because they want to support you and your fiance on your wedding day. Unless one or both of you is douche-tastic, I wouldn't worry about people showing up.
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