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Blog Post: My Son is Gay
Okay, obviously not MY son since I don't have one... but... I loved this blog post and wanted to share. I don't think parents always realize that they are just as guilty of bullying as their children are.
Re: Blog Post: My Son is Gay
This is AWESOME! I would do the exact same thing. And, I love this line:
"I am not worried that your son will grow up to be an actual ninja so back off."
I was scratching head ginger because I didn't think you had a child.
I thought this was a great post, the only thing I was upset was with the mothers reaction. I get so tired of judgmental parents... seriously, they are the worse.
ETA: This boy is so freaking cute!
That whole post was fabulous - thanks for posting the link! I can't believe people are like that. He's 5 - and wants to rock a Daphne costume [that he definitely rocked, I might add]. So what? It makes me sad that he already knew that he'd face adversity for wearing that.
I'd do the same thing that mom did, too...but I'm not sure I would've been as calm about it as she was.
I liked that she mentioned if a girl was to wear a batman costume then no one would have never said anything. I think the little boy looks really cute in his costume. I think it's awful that he felt kind of ashamed before he went into the school because he thought he was going to be made fun of.
Shame on those other moms for bullying the mom and her son about his choice in a costume. I agree I don't think people do realize when they are bullying someone. It really is no one else's business. This blog just shows the double standard society has for boys and girls.
I was thinking that when I was growing up I wore my brothers' hand-me-down clothes all the time and no one batted an eye. But say if I have a son the next and I dressed him up in M's clothes people would be giving us the side eye everywhere we went. So why the difference?
OMG that little boy looks so cute!! He is five for Christ's sakes....
I really love this blogger's post because I think she touches on something that, as women, we don't seem to think about it...just as there are double standards for women (for instance: a female has had sex with 10 guys that makes her a whore, a man has had sex with 100 women and he is just a man), there are double standards for men as well.
And shame on those mothers.
I reposted this from a friend on Facebook before I saw it posted here. I both loved and hated this mom's story. I loved that she is so willing to let her son be himself, whoever that is, but I hated the judgments of the other moms.
I really don't get what the obsession is with all of this emphasis on what is supposedly gender appropriate with our kids. We were at a family birthday party and when he put on the pointed party hat, DS said, "Look, I'm a princess!" I think everyone in my family thought I was a freak because I didn't freak out about it. He also wears a purple hat, pink diapers, fake pearl necklaces and plays with dolls - so what? He is who he is and none of those things is going to change that.
My aunt mentioned that my cousin (her daughter) won't let her son (who is 3) watch the Tinkerbell movie because it might make him gay. Seriously?!?!?
I also have a friend who took her 5-year-old son to the store to buy him a toy that he'd seen on TV and been asking for. It was a mermaid Barbie. The kid in line behind them asked his mom why that boy was buying a Barbie and the mom told him, "I don't know. That's weird." And then the cashier actually asked my friend, "Aren't you worried it will make him, well....you know....?"
This story breaks my heart. But how lucky is this little boy to have such an amazing mom?!
I asked my dad once what he would do if one of his daughters said they were gay (this issue came up with family friends who struggled with the idea of it) and I just loved what he said: "I would love them more than any of my other daughters because she would be the one who would need the love the most." I hate that people think it's the opposite of that. But that is such a true statement and I'm so glad there are at least people like this mom who know that.
What an awesome post and an awesome mom!!
And now I know what I'm being next Halloween...
Such a good post!
I really don't understand where people get off saying such hurtful things to a child or his mama.
When I asked V what he wanted to be for Halloween he said a princess, then Dora the Explorer. He also went through a few minutes of a banana, a monkey, and a vampire. Eventually he settled on a hockey player. Not once did I think he was gay (and if he was I wouldn't care).
Also, like Critti said, he plays dress up, carries a purse around the house, tries on my heels (which he wears more than I do!), plays in the play kitchen and plays with dolls (M doesn't technically have any dolls, the ones she plays with are ones we had before she was born that V played with). M plays with cars and blocks and trucks and balls.
I think kids want to do what they see adults the look up to doing. I love that when V plays with dolls and when he is playing he is loving and caring to them and not trying to rip their heads off.