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How do you express "prayers" if not religious?

Hi,

My cousin is going through some really tough times, and I'd love to send her my support, but she is asking for "prayers" and I am not religious.  Is it okay to send her "good thoughts and support" without mentioning "keeping in her in my prayers" or is that a slap in the face?

Anyone else had a similar situation?

Thanks!

Re: How do you express "prayers" if not religious?

  • I think it's fine to say that "I'm thinking about you in this difficult time" or "my thoughts and support are with you" I'm sure she knows that you're not religious I doubt she'd think anything of it, it would just be good for her to know that you're there.
  • Sending good vibes her way?
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  • I think it's perfectly supportive and thoughtful to express the sentiment without explicitly mentioning prayer.  As someone who does not pray, I think this is more sincere than communicating your support in a way that doesn't fit with your personal habits.  She's probably phrasing her request for "prayers" because that's what feels most comfortable to her in the situation.
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  • "Peace and blessings to you and your family at this time, my thoughts go out to you."

    Usually what I write on all sympathy cards

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  • if she can't bring herself to accept that you're thinking about her and wishing her well instead of prayers then too bad-she doesn't deserve anything as far as I'm concerned. she can't demand that you pray for her-she'll have to take what you'll give won't she?

    send your good thoughts and wishes and leave it alone.

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  • I always write in cards "lots of love and support". I can't pray for someone to a god of a religion I don't believe in. I've never had anyone comment about it or ask why I'm not sending t&p.
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  • "I'm keeping you in my thoughts"
  • "may you and your family find as much peace as possible at this difficult time."
  • imageMerRhosyn:
    I think it's perfectly supportive and thoughtful to express the sentiment without explicitly mentioning prayer.  As someone who does not pray, I think this is more sincere than communicating your support in a way that doesn't fit with your personal habits.  She's probably phrasing her request for "prayers" because that's what feels most comfortable to her in the situation.

    Agreed.  And conversely, if I were asking other people for their support and good vibes, I wouldn't be offended if someone told me that their prayers were with me.

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