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It's slow
and I am bored and sick. So lets play WWCND
I have a train wreck of a friend who in the past 3 years has
gotten raped.
gotten KU by her Boyfriend and miscarried
Boyfriend got arrested about 3 weeks ago for domestic.
He ripped a bench out of the ground and was on top of her screaming. Someone called the cops. They had a no contact order but of course spent every night together once he got bailed out of jail.
I feel for her but it also is exhausting trying to help someone who wont help themselves.
Would you keep being there for her?
Walk away from the friendship?
Keep contact as limited as possible?
Re: It's slow
I had a very similar situation and I eventually just gave up. It was the spending every night together that did it, because it was like a slap in the face for every other time I tried to help her.
It was hard at first but it got easier as I started to enjoy my life without the constant wondering what was next. It was so toxic.
I didn't do any dramatic "I am DONE!" I just started speaking to her less and less. She IMed me yesterday and was all "Are you going to [Friend's] bday thing tomorrow? I want to see how many people I REALLY want to see are going before I decide. I miss you so much!" so clearly SHE doesn't get the point, but I keep myself very distant from her.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
Heh. I skipped over that part. The rest of it sounds very similar to my situation and it is draining and eventually just bleeds you dry.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
I read the rape part as just some background on the friendship.
I would have a hard time cutting ties to someone who needs my help so bad unless I feel her actions are causing problems for me.
I got what you were saying. It's hard to watch.
In my case, the two got into physical fight after physical fight. It was really both of their faults so since the male half of the couple got tossed out, I gave him a place to stay and I listened as she cried and cried about how this was really really it for real this time (after two years of swearing she was done "this time.).
This happened on a Tuesday. By Saturday, the two of them were taking a roadtrip to "sort out their issues."
And then I got several phone calls from the road about how much they hated each other and wanted to kill each other.
And then they came back and continued doing that all over again. You reach a point where it's like, yeah, you've had some shittyluck, but I can't even listen anymore.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.
yeah, that is tiresome, I'd cut ties.
Husbands should be like Kleenex: Soft, strong, and disposable.