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Your best dirty talk tips!
I'm actually a classy dame in real life, but a total whore in the bedroom. LOL! I've gotten good, um, feedback on the following, but would love some of your more creative ideas.
"F**k/pound/nail that harder/deeper."
"You love that wet/juicy/tight p***y/c*nt"
"Ooh, I'm gonna c*m/squirt"
I can't believe I just typed all that. Any other ideas you can share? Please be explicit, but not to the point of geting yourself banned!
Thank you!
Re: Your best dirty talk tips!
Interesting!.......I find talk is one of the most exciting things about good sex,..however, there is a constant danger that it will just start to sound like the sound-track from a porn vid. Like many men, I don't want to have sex with a porn star but with a real live woman who is my partner and lover. That means the chat must be absolutely genuine,...too much "Oh Yeah, harder baby" gets very tedious and can suddenly be a turn-off.
Personally, I like for our conversation to just develop as arousal deepens into full sex ,.....Only our partners can know private stuff about us and about them and their particular needs and likes etc., and this can lead to more and more exciting talk about what it feels like and what we want eachother to feel and enjoy,...and about how we are seeking out the others particular hot-spots of both mind and body.
I love to whisper stuff into her ears as she gets excited and more than one woman has told me that it's very much a turn-on. There is a very fine line between what turns a woman on and what turns her off. I like to whisper stuff which is quite 'rude',..or would be in the cold light of day, and I'm very careful to keep away from any crudeness until we are in the throes of orgasm. I tell her things about her body and what I like about it,...how full her lovely tits feel in my hands,..how her curves make me throb ,.......how pretty her mouth is and how I like to see it pushing my foreskin back! I really enjoy her excitement and like to see her catch her breath as I talk to her. As things develop I enjoy whispering to her what I have in mind to do with her and how I'm going to really enjoy it,...I NEVER tell her SHE will enjoy it because women like to think they are the reason for a mans excitement and I can feel her excitement growing as I talk more to her. I have noticed that full adjectives seem to work best on a womans psyche,......nothing 'dirty', just full descriptive words about her body and how it makes me feel. I know she likes her tits described as "magnificent" and "lush"....I know she will enjoy me describing her sex as "full" and "ready",..and I know she likes her buttocks to be "splendid" and "enticing".....
I think the best guide is passion iteself,......sexy chat is just a verbal extention of the level of passion and excitement as sex takes place. It's important to keep ones language sensual, rich and descriptive. with as few cliches as possible,...so no porn vid lines please!
Wow, ok, Im intrigued! But how do I initiate it? My husband and I have great sex but the "Omg that feels so good, go harder/deeper, and I love the way your c**k feels" gets to sound like a broken record. I dont want to say anything too offside, I want to ease into that. Any recommendations on new things to say to my man in bed?
Eriona,.....
Glad to have been a help!
Gilliebear,...A possible way into it might be to concentrate on what you really enjoy about your man and the best parts of sex,..then just tell him when you are both in bed. Start simple and get into it,..keep it descriptive and even graphic, but sensual rather than pornagraphic!
Try to think in advance what you like about him and what he will enjoy to hear about himself,..but, keep it truthful, and don't tell him stuff that will get a wrong reaction to what you want,..... e.g., don't tell him he is a hard stud who is your stallion man unless you want a hard pounding! Try to get a full range of feelings out of him so make it clear that you value his humanity and tenderness.
Concentrate on nice adjectives that reflect his body and methods. Memorise some that sound good to you, but don't just reel them off in bed as if yo are quoting Roget's Thesaurus or it's going to seem a little weird!
Tell him honestly that you want to tell him stuff sexually but that you have always felt a bit shy,...but now you are going to give it a shot! I'll be very surprised if he does not find it a massive turn on!!
Most men want to be good lovers and fullfill their partners,..it's just that most of us were no brought up to be either thoughtful or romantic, so we need all the help we can get form our women.
most people will tell you im the most outspoken person that they know but I have a confession...I just cant seem to talk dirty...LOL I want to soo bad but i get shy and tongue twisted...
My hubby talks dirty and he tells me he wishes i would do it more often...im work on it:)