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Need to make him listen.
I have been struggling with low sex drive for sometime now, but I feel one of the problems is my FH inabilty to listen. I am not afaid to be vocal, but even when I say things like "don't stop", "right there", ect, he moves off into left feild. I don't want the lack of sex to keep affecting our relationship like it is now. He tries to please me, but he only wants to do it his way. I want the sex to be fun again, but I just get pissed cause he won't listen.
Re: Need to make him listen.
sit down and have an adult conversation about it. without yelling. without accusing. and gently, so that he doesn't end up with a bruised ego.
Besides talking to him about it which seems obvious, here's my suggestion:
Take control. One night initiate and YOU do EVERYTHING. When he grabs your waist, grab his hands and pull them back and say "no, today I get to be in charge", you go on top of him..if he tries to move faster than you want then tell him no, press him down and take complete control. He'll like it, and it'll be you in charge, him listening or doing what you need/want. and might show him too that it's not so bad to listen.
Sure it might not work long term, but it might show him that he's not the only one in control, every once in a while YOU need to take control too, if you show him this in a very obvious way he might get it next time you say "do this"
side note: H has told me before that sometimes when I say "Please don't stop" he knows how excited I am, he doesn't want to stop but the fact that I'm getting so close makes him get too close to finishing and he needs to move just so that he can keep going...he's afraid that he's going to finish before I have a chance too. This might be what your H is doing too...
Love it!