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you guys...so sorry
OK, I don't know WHAT happened, but sorry for taking up a WHOLE page with duplicate posts.
The story I was going to post about is about my grandpa who is 93 and just spent 5 days in the hospital with congestive heart failure and didn't tell anyone he was there!
He might end up living with my parents in VT this winter instead of in California with his lady friend (they do CT in Summer/Fall and CA in Winter/Spring usually).
Isn't it kind of messed up that he didn't call or let his lady friend call my dad? My dad asked him why he didn't call and my grandpa said "why? what were you going to do? if I die, I die".
Re: you guys...so sorry
Haha TN is dumb sometimes, we all know that
1. I am so sorry to hear about your grandpa, I hope the Dr.s were able to help him improve.
2. Sounds like living with your parents might be good for him, that's awesome that they are able to offer that for him.
3. Bad grandpa!
Seriously though, even with the attitude "If I die, I die" your family still loves you and wants to be with you or at the very least to know what's going on.
Sorry to hear about your grandpa.
From my experience, this is completely normal for that generation. All of my grandparents act(ed) this way - we moved purposely 10 min from my mom's parents so that we could be there when they needed us, and they wouldn't let us know they were in the hospital until they got home! They have since moved to an assisted living facility about an hour away (right near my uncle, their son) so now we know what's going on since a nurse checks on them 2x/day. My other grandfather passed away a few years ago, and he was notorious for not telling anyone anything. They (my grandparents) seem like they don't want to be a burden, and they don't want to appear weak.
Also, CHF isn't an acute thing, it's chronic, and you can medically manage it and live with it for decades - has he never told your family about his heart issues before?
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Claire I am sorry to hear about your grandpa. I hope he has things under control for now. I hope he decides to stay with your parents for the winter.
I also second what Becky said about that generation. None of them want to be a burden so they just try to tough it out. I hope by your grandpa staying with your dad it will help him realize that his family is there for him and it is ok to call them.
As far as I know, this is a new diagnosis. He had a heart attack at 48 and completely changed his life - super low sodium, no trans fats, no high fructose corn syrup. I think that is probably why he is still alive. I think he still has high BP though.
He has (like most men over 70) prostate cancer that they treat every so often - he had surgery for that last summer and stayed with my parents (the doctor that my mom works for did the surgery and mom [she is an NP] took care of him) so I think he knows he will get excellent care there. We all know his heart is not great, but I mean, he's 93. NINETY-THREE!
So who knows, but yes, it is a chronic condition and he is now on a whole lot of new meds. He called my mom with all kinds of questions. They mainly put him on diuretics, and he was saying he doesn't want to drink a lot of fluid because he is worried that he pees "too much". he is a crazy old man - though not really, he is 100% still there mentally. it is amazing.