May 2010 Weddings
Dear Community,
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
Our tech team has launched updates to The Nest today. As a result of these updates, members of the Nest Community will need to change their password in order to continue participating in the community. In addition, The Nest community member's avatars will be replaced with generic default avatars. If you wish to revert to your original avatar, you will need to re-upload it via The Nest.
If you have questions about this, please email help@theknot.com.
Thank you.
Note: This only affects The Nest's community members and will not affect members on The Bump or The Knot.
How can I stop obsessing?
From my engagement day till the wedding we had 22 months which was ample time to prepare. I got married on May 1st this year and i have thought about this almost every day since the day after my wedding day.The Constant obsessing over my hair that i did not like, my bouquet that was wrong and other smaller things. When i see photo's from the reception i cringe because i think my hair was so ugly, because it was hot and i was sweating all i see is ugly frizzy hair!!!! . How can i just get OVER this and stop waisting my time on what i can't change? I think the main reason i obsess is i did not look the way i imagined i would on my wedding day. I imagined looking amazing and i just think the way I looked was ok at best :-(
Re: How can I stop obsessing?
The only thing I can say is stop thinking about the things you didn't like about your wedding and think about all the good things. Like the fact that you married your husband!
That was the whole point of the wedding right? I had ALOT of things at my reception that were not what I wanted but when I think about my wedding, I don't think about that. I think about how excited I was that morning, how much I loved my dress, the look on my husbands face when the doors opened and we saw eachother for the first time, etc. Don't dwell on the bad things and you'll eventually forget about them
Have you ever heard the saying "Perfection is the enemy of the good"? Your wedding day may not have been perfect, and your photos may not be perfect, but it was pretty good, right?
My caterers screwed up the cake decoration (it looked fugly instead of awesome because someone apparently couldn't read) and my MIL wore a dress that was whiter than mine (despite my husband asking her to wear something else). One of the flower arrangements blew over and the vase shattered, so we only had one decoration instead of two. I could dwell on those things, but I'd rather think about the fact that I get to wake up and see this great guy every day for the rest of my life.
Try focusing on that and on the things about your wedding day that you did like.
ETA: I don't mean this in a harsh way at all, but get a hobby. You should have more interesting things going on in your life than worrying about one day that happened over half a year ago.
Also, I guarantee you are the ONLY one who has any idea that things were less than perfect. I am willing to put money on the fact that none of your guests have thought about your wedding even once in the past five months. Not because it wasn't memorable, but once it's done, it's done, ya know?
There are things I sometimes think about that I wasn't too happy with either (my hair in the photos), the fact that my dress was kinda loose and my boobs don't look perky, the photos from our ceremony b/c I wore a birdcage veil and the officiant told DH to put it up (so it was flying straight up off my head), but I'm over it. You definitely have to focus on the good things about your day like the other ladies said, and the fact that you're now married to your DH - which I hope was the most important reason for having your wedding. Also, even with all of these things I didn't like, everyone thought that both I and the wedding were beautiful. I would stop dwelling on it and try to either focus solely on the good, or stop thinking about it at all (not to be harsh). I feel like I spent so much time stressing and thinking about the wedding before it happened that I don't want to put anymore thought into it (except for good memories) if that makes sense.
What the other girls said...
Let yourself just enjoy your marriage and your life now. That was 6 months ago. You can't change it. You can't go back.
Immerse yourself in the NOW. And plan for the future.
And like Kelly (I think) said... get a hobby. Find something else to take up your time.... even if it's just starting a blog. DO SOMETHING! =D
"God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change..."
AND PS... Hi. I see this is your first post! Please feel free to introduce yourself in a new thread. There's a great group of ladies here. Not only for advice but just to talk to and share your day with. Several of us have been together since The Knot but we're always ready to welcome newcomers! So... Welcome!!!