With the exception of just a couple of family members, I could care less if I ever even laid eyes on the rest of them ever again. I'm so angry right now that I feel like my head is going to explode.
My mom called me last night to tell me that she got in a huge argument with my aunt then told me in passing that my grandma is having hallucinations. My aunt knew about it and told my mom not to tell anyone. AYFKM?!?!?! Grandma had to be institutionalized when I was a kid after finding illegal drugs in my uncle's pants. She went completely loony toons. Hallucinated, thought everyone was after her and wanted to kill her...it was terrifying. So now instead of dealing with the possibility that something is wrong (whether it's mental or physical) they would rather ignore it.
I think the thing that has gotten to me the worst is that mom was more concerned with telling me about the argument she had with aunt than she was about her own mother. Then she tells me that if my grandma is losing it again that "she just can't deal with it" which is the same thing she said to me when I was sitting at my grandpa's bedside watching him die.
I called my one cousin that is trustworthy last night and filled her in on what's going on. She's going to sit down with my grandma tomorrow and see what's going on with her then she and I will determine if I have to head down there so she and I can get things taken care of. She lives a mile away and I live 1 1/2 hours away so she is my first line of defense.
Re: I hate my family
Agree with this!!
I've been in your shoes for a very similar situation and its hard. When you feel like you're the only one (or one of the few) fighting an uphill battle its difficult. My family is also notorious for "keeping" things like this away from the rest of the family b/c they don't want to cause everyone panic. I would rather know asap and deal with it accordingly than to brush it under the rug and pretend like its not happening. Hugs!!!