March 2010 Weddings
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First Year of Marriage
I came across this article and I can say that every point is spot on for us!
http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/10-shocking-secrets-of-the-first-year-of-marriage-2399338/
Thoughts?
TTC #1 Since July 2011
BFP #1 2/28/12- 3/3/12 CP at 4w3d
BFP #2 4/1/12- 5/7/12 Missed M/C at 8w4d (measuring 6w3d)
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BFP #1 2/28/12- 3/3/12 CP at 4w3d
BFP #2 4/1/12- 5/7/12 Missed M/C at 8w4d (measuring 6w3d)
TTC on hold until December
Re: First Year of Marriage
The laundry one is soooo true! I'm incredibly picky about how my laundry is done. I have a latex allergy and all of my clothing (except socks and sometimes PJ's) is hung out to dry instead of using the dryer. When I first moved in with H, I took over laundry. He would throw all of his clothes into the same load. I now separate dark, light and his pants (because they have buttons all over and I noticed the darks wearing faster when they were washed together).
H did a load not too long ago when I had been away and he needed undies. I laughed when he told me that he had to wash a second time without soap because he added a "cap full" of detergent - our detergent is ultra concentrated and takes only 1/8 of a cap.
Haha too funny on the detergent. DH is not allowed to touch my laundry after he threw my brand new white lululemon work-out tank and sweatshirt in with darks which resulted in them turning blue.
I laughed at the "You won't want to spend every moment with your new husband". I secretly looked forward to DH's roadtrips this year so I could have some time to myself that did not include cooking or cleaning. Don't get me wrong I love him to pieces, but sometimes it's nice to have a few days to myself!
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During most of the wedding planning stage DH worked two jobs and I LOVED having a few nights a week to myself. Now he's back down to one and I'll admit there are times I would do ANYTHING for that alone time again lol
K can do laundry but is horrible at folding. We don't seperate aside from towels/sheets & clothes b/c we go to the laundry mat and it would cost waaaayy too much for so many extra loads. Basically he starts the loads and has it timed out so they are finishing just when I get home from work and can fold it all.
We're a mix on most of those. With the laundry, it started to get that I was doing it all and I put my foot down. I work more hours than he does and so darn it we're sharing the housework.
He does do most of the fixing, but we don't break much so it evens out.
As far as the not wanting to spend every moment with him. I can see it. He works a different shift than me and we have different days off so we have 4 days that we are together half the day. I wish he were around a little more but at the same time I enjoy my time too.
I'm just going to spell it all out:
1) You'll gain a little love weight: Probably have. Although I'm aiming to start losing soon.
2) Your B-list buds will go MIA: Eh, I kind of did a "friend purge" after college and realized who were my true friends and who weren't. I'd consider that more of my B-list buds going MIA than getting married. But CW this is very true for (since obviously now that I'm married I'm not "allowed" to go out after work).
3) Your sex life will be off the charts... sometimes: I agree. DH and I work really long hours so when we get home, most of the time we're just so exhausted.
4) You won't unpack your china for 6 months: Lie... sort of. We had our neighbors over back in the spring after the wedding and we didn't have a casual gravy boat so we used our china one.
5) You'll do the dishes, he'll fix stuff: False, we both do the dishes/laundry but he does fix stuff.
6) Even though you have two paychecks you'll still feel broke: True. I hate money (and this is coming from an accountant).
7) You won't want to spend every moment with your husband: Meh. If we were still living back in Pennsylvania this would be true. But since we really only have one set of friends (our neighbors- who have all their friends near by), it's nice to have DH around a lot.
8) You'll go to bed mad even though you vowed not to: Sometimes true. I have a really bad habit of holding things in so that is one thing DH asked me to work on for more open communication, so I try not to go to bed mad anymore.
9) Being a wife won't mean you'll instantly have skills of an Iron Chef: Let's be serious, I couldn't cook before the wedding and I still can't cook now. DH does pretty much all the cooking.
10) The world will feel like a better place: Overall I agree.
I guess it is kind of a mix of being true and false for us.
1) You'll gain a little love weight: Well, I was gaining a teeny before I got pregnant. Now...yeah let's not even go there.
2) Your B-list buds will go MIA: I'm with Misa on this. At this point in time, we already have our friends who we constantly keep in touch with and the friends we mostly talk to on FB (who I consider the B-list) so our B-list buds were pretty much MIA by the time we got engaged, much less when we got married.
3) Your sex life will be off the charts... sometimes: Bahahahaha.
4) You won't unpack your china for 6 months: Somewhat true but we only have a few small pieces. The rest is at MIL's house which she will give us when we get our house.
5) You'll do the dishes, he'll fix stuff: False as well. We both do dishes for the most part and we both fix stuff.
6) Even though you have two paychecks you'll still feel broke: This would be false if it weren't for the monthly medical bills and hubby's new car note. But we have definitely been worse off in the past so I don't complain.
7) You won't want to spend every moment with your husband: SO TRUE! I love when he works Saturdays!!
8) You'll go to bed mad even though you vowed not to: Definitely true. Hasn't happened lately, though.
9) Being a wife won't mean you'll instantly have skills of an Iron Chef: LOL @ Misa. I never cooked until we moved in together so he was pleasantly surprised to find out I knew how to cook. I was even more shocked to find out that he could cook as well. Win!
10) The world will feel like a better place: Definitely true.
1) You'll gain a little love weight: Thanks to my honeymoon I definitely did. I am trying to lose though!
2) Your B-list buds will go MIA: This is true. It's also true that some of this was because of jealousy issues. I had a few friends in college that were also dating football players, we were all very close but since they have all broken up and I married DH we don't really talk. It is all them, I tried for awhile to keep in touch.
3) Your sex life will be off the charts... sometimes: Pretty much what Misa said.
4) You won't unpack your china for 6 months: Okay not china, but I haven't completely unpacked everything from when we moved in April and now I have to just re-pack anyway.
5) You'll do the dishes, he'll fix stuff: True, but I also usually fix stuff. My DH is not handy at all!
6) Even though you have two paychecks you'll still feel broke: True, but this is because we are saving over 50% of our income per month for a down payment/our big move.
7) You won't want to spend every moment with your husband: True, we have opposite schedules during the football season. It is weird when he is home all of the time during the off-season. I've learned to be okay with all of this and like my independence.
8) You'll go to bed mad even though you vowed not to: False. Neither one of us hold a grudge, we'll be mad for about 10 minutes and then both apologize.
9) Being a wife won't mean you'll instantly have skills of an Iron Chef: False. I've always loved to cook and like to think that I am good at it. I always tell DH he is so lucky.
10) The world will feel like a better place: Totally agree with this. Don't know how to explain it.
BFP #1 2/28/12- 3/3/12 CP at 4w3d
BFP #2 4/1/12- 5/7/12 Missed M/C at 8w4d (measuring 6w3d)
TTC on hold until December