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Sister-in-law nightmare
My hubby and I have been married for over a year. His brother married his little ray of sunshine 1 year before us. She HATES me! There is absolutely nothing I can do to make this chick like me. We have had one blow up fight before which lead to a 'family meeting'. I just don't understand what her deal is, she can't own up to any of her issues and every problem is someone elses fault. I wish I could say she only had an issue with me but its been the whole family. There have been arguements between all of the family members with her. What makes it so difficult is that my husband and brother in law's relationship is suffering because of it. I hate feeling like because I don't get along with her that they don't spend time together because of it. I personally didn't know his brother before his woman came into his life but apparently he was this happy go lucky really fun guy to be around. Not anymore, he's so serious and he is beginning to react over the top the way she does. With this holiday season coming up I am dreading it! I hate that I have to spend time with someone I absolutely CANNOT stand! But I don't want to hurt my hubby, because that is his family and I love him so I try to put on a smile. It just gets harder and harder. We had family pictures done a few weeks ago and we hadnt seen them in months and neither one of them acknowledged me. I don't understand and I really need some advice....HELP!
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Re: Sister-in-law nightmare
you cant make someone like you.
if you have to go to family functions be polite, say hello and stear clear of her the rest of the day. dont let her ruin your holidays-you're giving her WAY too much power over you if you do.
This.
I agree with the you can't make someone like you.
This girl sounds like a crazy immature B!tch. Don't give her anymore power. Just ignore her. And avoid her at the family functions.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
I agree- you are giving her way too much power. All of you. Just like it takes 2 people to make a relationship, it also takes 2 people to make a fight. If everyone has had a fight w/ her, then you all need to start learning to just walk away.
She doesn't like where people sit at church? "Feel free to sit wherever you like.". She wants everyone to move? "No thanks, we're happy here. We'll see you after the services".
The less you all react to her, the less fuel she has.
They didn't tell you they were PG? Sure, kind of sucks, but yet - I think this is also where you do need to accept that you all simply arent' close to them and they aren't going to think to reach out to you.
From that front, you do have to "get used to it". You can't force her to like you, you can't force them to be close to you all. You DO have to find acceptance in that.
~Benjamin Franklin
DS dx with celiac disease 5/28/10
just bow out. your DH and his brother can go out on their own together, no need for you and SIL to be there.
During holidays you just stay on opposite ends, nod a polite hello, say "brr it's so cold out there"....
you don't like your BIL or SIL, so why does it matter if they like you, ya know? Just say "who cares" throw your arms up, and do your own thing
just bow out. your DH and his brother can go out on their own together, no need for you and SIL to be there.
During holidays you just stay on opposite ends, nod a polite hello, say "brr it's so cold out there"....
you don't like your BIL or SIL, so why does it matter if they like you, ya know? Just say "who cares" throw your arms up, and do your own thing