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Your "secret weapon" in the bedroom?
If you had just one move in the bedroom that you could recommend to others, what would it be? It could be something as subtle as easy ways to set the mood, or your favorite position...
Re: Your "secret weapon" in the bedroom?
I'd say to keep all things 'children' out of the bedroom. This means photos, laundry, actual children....you get the idea. Though I adore my kids, I don't want to feel like a mom in the bedroom and it really puts the flame out to roll over and see my kid smiling at me in a frame!! It should be all about you and your mate!!
What a fun topic!!
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Once in a while my DH and I bring out what we call our "bag of tricks".
basically, we take turns getting blind folded... the one that brings the bag of tricks gets to do whatever they want to the other person without them knowing what they'll have done next becuase of the blindfold.. can be as simple as massaging body parts or getting kissed anywhere without anticipating it...
very fun and exciting to play this game....
Making out really always gets us in the mood. Sounds so high school and petty....but it really really works.
And cough, we love to watch porn together....that would be OUR secret weapon!
...ditto this...
and the pp who mentioned thigh-high...dh has a fetish for them...
My secret weapon is.....
"cheeky" undies and heels. Changing out of my normal clothes with my back to him while having cheeky undies on and heels on my feet. Works EVERYTIME.
Sara, Friend?
glove slap. I don't take crap.
We always talk about our sex life, which neither of us have problems with. We try new things sometimes. Every now and then we bring out our box of toys.
I am going to have to try some of these though, they sound fun.. the blind folding thing. Love it!
FI is into lingerie, not anything crazy, as simple as a matching bra and panties...especially if he gets a peek at them earlier in the day. Knowing I'm wearing them just for him seems
A little dirty talk never hurts either. Some people might feel silly saying things they would NEVER think to utter but once you realize how much the other person reacts you won't feel so silly!
As PP said, a 'hint' during the day of what's to come like a lingering kiss is perfect! During the day when we're doing things that are completely un-sexy we like some lingering kisses, a little grab here or there, that sort of thing. Knowing you'll have to wait makes it that much better.
Also, I sometimes tell FI he can touch me anywhere that is non sexual, and he gets as close as possible. Again, it's that much better once the action really gets going.
Lastly, no TV (or anything else really) in the bedroom!! FI decided when we moved in together there would be no TV, because it can ruin your sex life. I mean, why fall asleep watching TV together when you could be doing other things?
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We just try to have fun. it usually starts with some tickling or playing a game (trying to wrestle the other person off the bed). It's probably immature, but it leads to some great adult fun for us.
One of our favorite positions is reverse cowgirl. I feel like I have more control and he gets a different view.
I actually bought a couple books at Barnes and Noble that are full of new positions to try, complete with photos. If we feel like we're in a rut, or if we just want to do something new, we flip the book open and do whatever is on that page.
I'll second (or third) PP who said watching porn. We do that too. Never fails.
I just discovered this one. The sash of my satin robe is a great little prop. I spontaneously wrapped it around DHs wrists. He loved it!
Lingerie too. Before we got married, DH and I went to the store. I tried on the lingerie and took quick pictures. DH could not wait to see what I bought on the honeymoon! He still loves the stuff I got because he remembers the pictures.